What do you do when your family is falling apart...

What do you do when you're caught in the middle? My mother is addicted to pain killers which knocks her out by 5pm...and she has a real problem spending money she doesn't have. She is constantly in the red with her bank account. My dad, upset at the way my mom is, constantly critcizes her about spending and how she falls asleep because he's so frustrated with her. He's tried to get her help, he's tried asking her nicely, getting mad, everything. She just lies to him because she does it anyway and doesn't want to hear his shit.

The comes in my sister, who's in debt up to her ears. She was in the army, but then came back and I moved in with her and her friend. She spends money worse than my mother, lives like a complete slob, and leeches off the government checks she gets in every month. After the lease was up she owed so much money she moved in with my parents. She took a loan out from my aunt to go to beauty school to learn how to be a hair stylist and beautcian, and almost lost her gi bill because she never went to class. She finally made it through school, but won't take the final test because she's decided she doesn't want to do that any more. She won't get a job, she just lays around my parents house. My dad, already upset with the way my mom was acting, now had to deal with my sister. My mom, upset with the way my sister and dad always went at it began secluding herself in her room. My dad finally was going to kick my sister out when she slashed up her arms. None of it was deep enough to actually hurt her, but it got the point across. The rest of my family got involved and my sister's words turned them all against my dad who moved out of the house. He now lives on his own, and it's not easy for him because he owns his own business but doesn't make THAT much.

Now my sister and mother live together, the fighting is pretty much gone because my mom doesn't have the guts to stand up to my sister and secludes herself. My sister basically runs the house. I've taken care of my mom's painkillers because I give her the days worth every day. I feel like I'm babysitting. I honestly don't even know if I'm helping because I found she's had other pain killers she didn't tell me about. So I found them and confronted her and took them. Then the next month she said she decided to tell the pain place not to issue her any and then I found she was lying about that too. The lies lies lies, it's hard to have your mother lying to you so much.

So now my father is thinking about a divorce. I've been trying so hard to keep the family together. With calming either side down about the other, trying to get a handle on my mom's pain killers and setting it up so she knows how much money she has in her account and how much she can or can't spend, getting them all together at my apartment to play boardgames and interact with each other. I'm just so tired. I'm so worn out with it all. I love my family but they don't seem to love each other, and I'm stuck in the middle. I want to go back to being a happy family again, but I think at this point that's impossible.

So what can I do? What should I do? Has anyone else out there dealt with something similar and can share some way to deal with this? Because sometimes, I feel like I'm at my limit and I could just crumble at any second. I want my family back...but am I just being selfish? I just don't know anymore.

Anyone out there? Anyone listening?

Jam it back in, in the dark.