Negative feelings towards love...advice appreciated.

Hmm... This'll make a great typical anime storyline. Actually this situation is freakishly similar to some anime around!

But being serious, I think you gotta control those feelings man. From what I'm reading so far it seems to only time you'll have a chance with your best female friend is if your best male friend is out of both your lives completely (which I think would be highly unlikely, would it not?).

It seems you really want love to come your way, seeing how you've gone through that many scenarios. But keep in mind, "good things come to those who wait." Someone who likes you will come forth as long as you stop "trying" to find someone. Trying to find someone is the biggest person changer as you find yourself trying to appear perfect for girls etc. etc.

Otherwise if you can't wait, go talk to other girls. Broaden that horizon of yours. Or keep within your walls of safety. Talk to girls with the same interests as you. Join clubs. Join groups. Whatever gives you an excuse to meet new people.

G'Luck mate.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by x86

Long time before the crash, I was known in this forum as LordSyl. Back then, I created one or two posts where I spoke about my "love life" (relationship-wise, I mean ), which was (and still is) non-existant, and I'm in harder conditions than you: Almost 22 years old, and extremely small social base (family, basically).

To the point: I received similar answers: "love will come to you" and "it'll hit when you least expect it" and so - but no signs o'life yet.
I'm somewhat skeptic (though chances of it happening shouldn't be discarded, let's be optimistic ) but hey, those phrases end up sounding like automated answers. :lolsign:

Now that's an extremity of the other kind.

Of course you won't find any love if there's no "candidates" to start off with! And what I mean by "love will come to you" is that you do the things you love doing yourself. I don't know. Join an anime club or something. Tennis club. Enjoy whatever you do in whatever you join and a person with a similar mind to yours may come. I say may, but there's a high chance of meeting someone.

But then again, people will probably use the cliche "It's easier said than done." It's easier to sit on your ass and give up than to go out there and do stuff you enjoy (and as a consequence meeting other people who think the way you do). Live life.

There's nowhere I can't reach.