Let's be friends

I don't think you can really ever be friends with your ex. Don't even TRY to bring up your current g/f or b/f with your ex... It will always be a little awkward. Anyway why would you want to be friends with your ex? I mean, he or she is your ex for a reason.

I have the exest of ALL ex's, an ex-wife. I call her Satan.

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Ex-wives are totally different than ex-g/f. There is really no comparison. Especially when you have to go to court for a divorce. You don't have to go to court to break up with a g/f. I'm not sure if there is any coming back from bad mouthing each other in court. Plus, if you do try to have a friendship, it ends the day you start seeing someone else. We tried to have a friendship, but the minute I got a new g/f, she started with all her insane questions. "Is she better looking than me?" "Is she better in bed than me?" You know, the type of questions that there is no right answer to.

I am still friends with my past g/f's. I still talk to them, although very very rarely, but I just can't seem to do anything right, when it comes to my ex-wife. She's of the school where she is always right and that is that. Whenever I try to talk to her, she comes up with "remember 5 years ago when you said this to me...." Yet, if she says anything bad to me, she will deny it 5 minutes later.

That doesn't sound like the way a "friend" should act.

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I'm happily married now...to someone else. But I remember in my first marriage, if I even brought up past girlfriends my wife would freak out, so I couldn't imagine what she would have done if I was actually still friends with any of them. The words Lorena Bobbit come to mind...

My new wife would accept it if I was friends with any past g/f, but I think I would feel a little weird being in the same room with 2 girls that I had slept with. I'd probably feel a little on edge, uncomfortable to say the least.

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What I was trying to say is that it is possible, probably likey, to be friends with exes when you are single, but once you get in a relationship, I think it might be a little hard to stay friends. I mean, if your present g/f found out you are hanging out some nights with your old g/f, she might get jealous.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I agree with you, Live. If you were in love with a girl, I don't understand how you can turn that love off like a switch. You would either be lying to yourself that you want to be friends, or maybe you were never in love in the first place.

If you truly love someone, I don't see how you can be just friends with them and stand by while they go out with other guys, ect. I don't think it is healthy. I think you made the right choice in your circumstances. Escpecially if her reason was your race.

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I feel if you have found true love, more than likely, there will be no reason to break up. Unless the other person doesn't truly love you. If you BOTH truly love each other, you will stay together no matter what. So, you would never have to worry about how to treat them after you break up.

Plus, we are human, whether you want to believe it or not, ALL humans are selfish. It is how we survive. We wouldn't kill so many wild animals by chopping down their woods (homes) just so we can have ANOTHER McDonalds to stuff our overwieght faces with, if we didn't think we all the all important race on this planet.

I was speaking idiomatically.

I'm guessing the rest of your post was meant for some other topic because it's not relevant to this discussion in any way.[/QUOTE]

The rest of my rant was directed to your comment that true love isn't selfish.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by surasshu

Ah, in that case, you're wrong. Every human is both selfish and selfless in varying degrees.

...not in the US. haha, I've yet to meet a selfless person.

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Originally Posted by Jamma

And strangely enough, not all of us are from the US...

What a stupid comment to make.

I am speaking from my experience. I don't know everyone in the whole world, therefore I could not possibly know if people from England are selfless. So, I do not think that is a stupid comment.

Although, I did date a girl from England once...

And to surrashu:

Of course people aren't selfish 100% of the time, I have a son, so I can vouch for that. And yes, I DO pay taxes, but there is no choice in that. I don't pay taxes out of the kindness of my heart, I HAVE to pay or go to jail.

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