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I was an in a situation dating this girl who within a few weeks started with the "I love you" and I played along hoping my feelings would change. 3 months later they still hadn't, and eventually I broke it off with the usual bullshit because I felt guilty of the whole lack-of-emotional-bond on my side.
I think the biggest reason I didn't love her (I think) is because she wasn't capable of conversation. For me, it isn't enough that they're smart because what's the point if you have no opinions or interests? I've found I need someone who I can talk to about ideas, etc, while they're able to present their own opinion or interests in intelligent ways, etc. Not easy to find.
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My god, I feel as though I'm facing the same problem. This girl I dated briefly in college - we still talk sometimes and she wants to get together with me again sometime soon. However, the last date we went on which was a couple months ago - I felt like crap because I was doing most of the talking. She wouldn't bring up anything! In which I though "Aww shit, no chemistry? This can't be happening." I mean I really enjoy her company, seeing her face and her smile. And I was hoping at some point in life, we'd start a relationship. But since we don't seem to be on the same page together for conversing, I don't feel it would ever work out for us. We could stay friends, but nothing past that. Even though I want us to be together, I've become more skeptical in understanding that it's better that we do not in the long run.
Besides that, you know how common divorces are these days? Like holy crap! Why isn't there any love staying around?
Anyway, I'm gonna try to see what we can talk about during our next date - to spark anything. And if I still feel empty after our date, then I'll have to move on. A good tip to know is - once you figure out she's not an exact match for you, try to stop dating immediately. It'll save you the trouble and the time. Just move on to the next possible candidate.
(Um, if this girl I'm talking about ever crosses this thread, WHAT SHOULD I DOOOO?)
There's nowhere I can't reach.
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