I can't be alone in this.

That all depends on what your definition of "passive" is.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by a lurker

Anyway, by passive I mean just that, Enceph. I guess in matters of degrees, they never voice what they want to eat for dinner or go out and watch, and you find out much later that they were always annoyed by something you did and wouldn't tell you yourself. That sort of level of passive.

Well, I've always kind of been of the belief that compromises are part of relationships. Having said that, I don't necessarily think that being a pussy (and being over passive basically translates to just that) is a way to compromise. On the flipside, I find that manipulative cocksuckers are of the lowest echelon of evolution and rank slightly higher than amoeba but lower than jackals.

So to answer your question, I don't necessarily like passive people, but I do have friends who are, I think, overly passive. However, these are generally the friends I hang out with sparingly and avoid more often than not for the sole reason that their passive nature consequentially turns them into emo whiny bitches who usually want your advice to reconstruct their frail lives and goddamnit... I'm not a shrink.

I listen. I don't reconstruct.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Minion

How do you tell the difference between being cautious and being passive?

If you normally order food you like, you're fine. If you only order food a girl would like because you're being "cautious" not to anger her... GET THE FUCK OUT OF THAT LOOP!

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by a lurker

The problem is is that you need the McDonalds bitches guy to get the ball rolling, otherwise you just shrug at each other all night.

HAHAHA! It's funny you should say that because I have a very small conclave of friends who I hang out with all the time and each one of us is "passive" to a certain extent about certain things. The greatest thing about it is that each of us is automatically entitled to speak for us all when it comes to their area of specialty. We're basically a self-sufficient clique.

Example: Let's say the four of us are hanging out on a Friday night and we're hungry. One of us will say, "Fuck man... I feel like a Applebee's." Well, everyone will agree, Applebee's it is. Come time for drinks and we order a pitcher of beer one of us will just say "2 pitchers, Fat Tire and Heffeweizen", Fat Tire and Heffeweizen it'll be... And everyone always agrees to this. Out to a movie? "Transporter", HOP TO IT! Why? Because we know that we all enjoy the same things, we're almost always on the same page and that's what makes us friends.

Sure, our political views differ and maybe our approaches to our basic life applications are different, but we all have a fundamental understanding... A Friday night is a TERRIBLE thing to waste.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by NES Oldskooler

Unless all your friends are clones of yourself, as in Encephalon's example.

Why do I get the feeling that this is somehow derogatory in nature? Do you seriously think that just because we all have similar tastes it automatically makes us carbon copies of eachother who are just there to fellate eachother's egos?

You have a lot to learn about friends, son.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by a lurker

* How can assertive people stand each other then? You would think you'd hear something about that by now.

Perhaps they are too passive to voice their true feelings and thus the issue remains obscure.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?