Question for the girls

I'm wondering, if a guy you don't know comes up to you and asks for a date/phone number, are you disturbed or annoyed by this? Also, considering you are single and you're physically attracted to the guy, would you ever consider his request?

I'm just wondering, since it seems like so many girls are afraid to go on a date with a guy they've never met ... but isn't that the point of a date? To get to know each other?

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I'd say that just walking up to a girl and asking for her number is completely bizarre, yea. You don't even know who she is. Maybe you should attempt a conversation before you go asking for girls' numbers based just on whatever you see in passing.

Strike up a conversation before you ask for a number, guys. =/

Whoa, don't accuse me. I've never done that. I'm just asking a question.

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Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

Hey, Smoodle. I think I can answer your questions, however, don't loop me in with the rest of the girls, OK?

Yes, I get annoyed when dudes ask me for my phone number/do you have a man/can I take you out. The reason why is mainly the type of guys it is. It's usually guys I see "shopping around" for other girls and sometimes they're the same ones that talk bad about other women. I also get hit on by older pieces of crap that have no business asking anybody out. I haven't seen a decent one guy step to me yet (not like I want one to...), but that's a long story.

I think a lot of other girls are afraid to go on dates with guys they've never met is because they don't want to appear like they're easy or something...at least, that's what I hear one of my ex-friends say. I don't date because I don't want to right now and I'm too busy.

Ok, so let me ask you this: You say you've never had a decent guy ask yet, but how do you know this if you don't know him? How do you judge these guys at first? I'm guessing most of them come off as very cocky, am I right?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by kat

I've got to ask (not claiming you've done this before) but what is the catalyst for a man to approach a woman. Is it because she looks easy? You actually think you have a chance? She's so overwhelmingly attractive that you just got to ask? Because please don't tell me you men think it's actually going to work.

Easy? No (not in my case, anyway). I'd say it would be because of physical attraction. It's not like the guy's asking for sex ... only a phone number or a date.

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Originally Posted by SMX

And, to the thread maker, you wouldn't happen to be asking this because you're concerned about whether or not you'll irritate some females if you approached them somehow are you? If so, trust me on this, just don't care about whether or not they get irritated. That might sound cold to some. But if a girl is so stuck on herself that she considers someone just trying to talk to her to be below her, she probably deserves to be irritated.

Actually, I'm just wondering what goes on in girls' minds when things like this happen. I know if a cute girl asked me for my phone number, and she seemed nice enough, I'd be flattered as hell!

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

^ Isn't the point of a phone number so you can talk and get to know the person? Alice N Wonderland just makes it easier on the guy, actually. Guys really hate obnoxiously self-important girls, so what's the point in getting to know them?

How ya doing, buddy?

Ewwww, she thinks she can judge a man's personality within the 2 seconds it takes for him to muster up the courage and ask for her number! What a creep!!!

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

You can't judge anyone's personality within 2 seconds, so what kind of dipshit guy would think he could see a girl from across a room and know that she's worth asking out JUST BECAUSE SHE'S HOT. That's my whole point. It's ridiculous. Don't ask for a girl's number unless you've at least had a conversation with her.

Physical attraction is one important aspect of a relationship between a man and a woman.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

No. How dare he ASK FOR MY PHONE NUMBER (ASK TO TALK TO ME SOMETIME) based solely on my looks.

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P.S. I'm married - I'm just saying, is all.

There.

FELIPE NO

Asking for a phone number is the same thing as asking someone out? When the fuck did this happen?

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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

Actually, no. But not being drop-dead gorgeous doesn't stop certain guys from being completely focused on my looks. Everyone has a "type," I guess.

Ah, now I understand.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

I like Alice's personality. May I have your phone number?

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Originally Posted by Plarom

It's my understanding that lots of girls do this.. But I'm trying to figure out the logic behind this.

My point is that it's veeery easy to label a dude as a testerone-filled, pussymongering, sexually driven manwhore. Even though it's a safe assumption to make, it isn't exactly fair for those who may approach a girl with genuine intentions.

Would it make more sense to say this-

"Hey. Ya know, you seem like a very nice girl and it'd be awesome if I got your number. Maybe we could chat for a little, or grab a bite to eat."

OR

"Hey. I saw you from around the way and I just couldn't resist coming up to your and asking for your hand in marraige. From what I can tell, you are everything I want in a woman and I'd like to start a family with you, have 7 kids, and be buried in matching plots when we grow old together and die."

Apparently, in both cases you're labeled a creep.

:juggler:

Exactly. But, thankfully not all girls are like that. You don't want the girl who thinks of you as a creep, anyway.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Why? And no. Life's too short to worry about shit like that.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I'd say they're doing it for themselves, as a sense of security ... but everyone's different.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

To me, the procuring is just the initiation. If she goes with what I have to offer at first contact, and we hit it off and have a long-lasting relationship, I couldn't care less about why she was so "easily" procured. It happened, we're both happy, and that's all I'm thinking about.

I was speaking idiomatically.

I like girls in sweats and plain t-shirts with little to no makeup. Am I an oddball?

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

It's not rape when a girl lets down a guy simply because he's attracted to her, and she's definitely dressed to impress (out of the ordinary) ... The question is, who is she trying to impress?

FELIPE NO

^ But wouldn't it be creepy to have some guy sweep a stranger off her feet?

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Because you're automatically a Ted Bundy character and really, really creepy?

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Fyodor D.

But he is her dream guy. She will know INSTANTLY that he is the right one, and he her, and thus the whole creepiness factor is eliminated. She will feel as if she knew him all her life.
And they will ride off into the sunset, in his BMW Z8, happily ever after.

Hahahah! So true.

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Originally Posted by Devo

Whether or not you want it isn't the issue here. It's recognizing as a non-naive adult that you will get attention whether you desire it or not. If you can't handle such things don't go out at all. If one thing is unavoidable in this life, it's assholes who are going to catcall. It's up to you to realize they exist and they don't give a fuck whether you want their attention or not. Some women DO want it, some don't, but if the man approaches you with a sincere interest there is NO reason to flip him the bird, laugh at him or demean him in any way.

And just a question to ponder: Who sets the standards of female beauty?

I do.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

When I wrote the first post, I didn't mean the first things out of a guy's mouth - "what's your phone number?" I'm mainly just asking what girls do when a guy out of nowhere asks for a date, or asks to get to know the girl better.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Reznor

You're the reason women get raped.

I'd have to disagree. I'd say women get raped because there are sick pigs out there willing to rape, or willing to justify rape as a means to an answer.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

That is the most ridiculous objection I've ever heard. I wouldn't be calling yourself a massive vagina, if I were you.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by kat

You can't change how men think of women but there should be some say on how they're treated.

Same goes with women.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Reznor

I'm calling you one.
I do however agree with your first reply to me. However, Kat, is the reason why women get raped.

Actually, I changed my mind.

She's too ugly to rape, so instead she'd just get the shit beat out of her.

Wow, you're just contradicting yourself left and right, aren't you?

Wait ... do you even have an argument?

How ya doing, buddy?

Actually, it's directed at the girl members here; What THEY do in this situation.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Ok, another question: When you are approached by a guy (regardless of whether or not you want to be), how would you rather him act: In a cocky way, a shy/reserved manner, an ultra-suave manner, or just in a regular no-effect-by-your-beauty sort of manner?

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Originally Posted by Elendil

.............reread my post/take english again.

IT SAID YOU WERE TAKING OFF, SO BIE!!!

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