This is totally lame...

Okay here's my situation: I want to get to know this girl in one of my classes because I'm insanely attracted to her. But I've never even talked to her, as I've never really had the chance to. I want to ask her if she'll have coffee with me sometime - maybe I'll get the chance after class, or something. Thing is, the prospect of asking someone I've never talked to seems kind of weird to me. I don't want to fuck up my first contact with her.

God, I hate contemplating so much. I wish I could just do it, but I can't!

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Earghlaawerhh. I guess I'll just forget about it, since I never have a chance to talk with her, anyway.

And, Valiant, you're very wrong in your assertion that girls don't like to be approached by guys who are a bit nervous (I know some don't, but those are bitches). They'd rather be approached in a nervous way than an overly cocky way. They see it as flattery.

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Thanks. Maybe I'll try that. Sometimes I just feel like a socially inept fucktard from another planet! Don't you could send messages through thought? Man, that would be awesome ... :lolsign:

Someday I will find a girl who likes me enough to have a relationship with me ... someday ...

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by russ

That sure is a really self-serving theory you've got there guy. You seem to forget that there's a really nice middle ground between overly cocky and nervous. If you approach the girl nervously, you're going to spazz out and give a bad first impression, which you don't want. Either develop some self confidence or learn to fake it.

Self-serving? WTF? No. And if a woman can't handle the fact that some guys are going to be a bit nervous at first, they're bitches. Simple.

(Bit nervous does not equal spazz out).

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Nope. That's not what I'm doing. I'm simply stating: if a woman sees that a man is kind of nervous when approaching her for the first time, she's pretty damn shallow if she rejects him on that fact alone. You gotta' admit, that's a bitchy thing to do. And your interpretations are wrong. I've never been rejected because of nervous behavior.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Well, I still very much disagree, but I'll just keep it at that.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Yeah, I know I need to grow some balls. But I still disagree that a nervous initiation should be the be-all and end-all of a woman's perception of a guy. I mean, she can reject him later on if he isn't her cup of tea confidence-wise, but to reject a guy based soley on the fact that he seems nervous at first is totally and completey 100% bitchy. I stand by that point.

How ya doing, buddy?

You can be shy and still be reliable. Not all shy people are flakey.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Hey, fuck you, that is me. But I'm making a face.

How ya doing, buddy?