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I had the same thing with the alcohol drinking phobia. But after I had a few alcoholic drinks (my first was a long island iced tea), I stopped worrying about it.

I don't think you should become a fish, though. Do it on occasion. I hate hearing about all these people who do nothing but party and drink ... wow, you and everyone else! You do anything INTERESTING, for Chrit's Sake?!

I'm also on the same boat that no one EVER invites me to do anything, and it seems strangers never approach me. Everyone's already got a group of friends, so why should they want to talk to me, right? However, I've had social anxiety all my life, and I'm just starting to get over it (very, very slowly).

From reading everything you wrote, you just need to stop being so uptight - Start off thinking non-uptight thoughts, and STOP writing about the uptight things that go on in your mind. Stop thinking so anylitically. Write about other things (make up bizarre shit if you want). Make yourself believe you are an interesting, social person. You've got to re-wire your brain (literally). It works.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

^ Sheesh. Drinking is NOT going to solve your problems. Quit trying to think of ways to excuse your non-drinking habits, and fuck the people who can't handle it.

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Originally Posted by The Dopefish

I made this thread because ChocoJournal isn't around yet. You didn't have to read it, or post in it, nor did anyone else. I also made this thread as a reiteration of what's going on with me, so if you already knew then you shouldn't have bothered then, either.

I can't get over it because I'm confused about what is going on. She seems to like me enough to hang out with me once, and seems to be interested in me enough to want to hang out again, but then she turns around, tells me she doesn't want to hang out (on any given day, not necessarily in general), then goes out drinking and tells me about it days later. If she doesn't like me, why not just tell me? If she does like me, why not understand that I'm trying to help her at a time when it seems no one else will? Should I just leave her to destroy herself? Would any of you do the same?

Is she returning your calls? If not, leave her alone. She's not worth your time.

Also, do you have a picture of yourself, and this girl you speak of?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by The Dopefish

No, no and no. The one time she did return my call was one week after we hung out, after she concluded that I felt the time we did hang out was a date (in the romantic sense) and to clarify that she has no interest in that at this point in her life.

It's not like she's a mean-spirited person -- she was much different when we did hang out, even with the similar circumstances -- but I don't know where her head is at right now.

Here's how smitten I am with her and depressed about the whole thing: my friend and I were sitting in an intersection, returning from 4 hours of hanging out (with about an hour-and-a-half of pool that seemed extremely awkward and tense) and she drove by. Moments later my heart crashed into my stomach. I have lost it. I don't know why this keeps happening to me (meet a girl who seems to like me, put her on a pedastal only to have her jump down moments later) but I'd really like it to stop.

(To clarify: she's already said she's not interested in a relationship -- with anyone -- and that she wants to be friends. What seems to be the problem is my definition of friendship and her definition of friendship are a bit different, since her "friends" are the ones that have been dragging her down, not me.)

Usually this happens with the first girl you've ever had a "date" with and are very much attached to.

Go with what she wants, and DO NOT smother her. Everything always starts off as a friendship, and girls are always saying they don't want a relationship. But there's always the possibility that she's rejecting you.

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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

You're right. This is a really, really good way to tell if someone is interested in you for either friendship or a romantic relationship. Someone who doesn't return your calls is sending you a message. If she isn't calling you back, move on.

Just curious, but what does that have to do with anything?

I'z just curious.

... By the way, if you're not introverted or shy ... I don't understand what your problem is. I thought that was your problem all along.

OH! Maybe your problem is you don't HAVE a problem!! Ever think of that!!? Jeezuz, man.

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