Friend advice

Wait, she got MARRIED to him?

Either way, I had a very similar situation with my very best friend a little while back (and I actually posted here asking about it too). Known this girl since 3rd grade, been best friends and considered each other sisters since 6th... once college came around, she pulls an entire 180 on me. After a long series of cheating on her boyfriend, breaking up with him to date the guy she cheated with, that guy leaving her, fuck buddies and one night stands, she settled down with a guy who looks exactly like the boyfriend she fucked it up with (and the guy she cheated with). He's 10 years older than her, an absolute loser, and I quickly found out that there was only one thing I could do about it.

Absolutely nothing. It's heartbreaking, of course. But there will come a point where you finally think 'fuck this' and let it be. If she notices you pulling away, perhaps something will click (and if it does, you'll be luckier in your friendship than I have).

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by a lucca

Anyway Temari I'm sorry to hear that about your friend. What sort of relationship were you able to retain?

We still talk occasionally, mostly when I'm home on breaks from school, because she goes to a school only 20 minutes away from our home town. But its become very infrequent. My mom said that Spring Break must have felt like an 'honor', because I got to spend almost every day of the week with my friend... at work. Of course, her boyfriend tagged along too.

We'll put it this way... she gave up a trip to Ireland with me, all-expenses paid by her parents, because she no longer wants to do anything that doesn't involve her boyfriend. It's rather sickening, actually. I think that was one of the big things that just told me to say 'fuck this'.

Again, it really sucks, but she knows that I feel this way about the guy (Both of her parents feel that way too, but that's another bitch-fest), there's nothing I can do beyond that. Tolerate the guy occasionally if you have to, but if she's like my friend who cant take the 'lets do this... only the TWO of us' hints, then perhaps its time to step back and say 'fine. Whatever.'

There's nowhere I can't reach.