Second born, second best

As a middle child, I know the feeling... rather than 'second born, second best' syndrom, I deal with 'middle child' syndrom... which I guess can be considered the same, as I too, am second born. Though my problems tend to come from my spoiled little sister.

Anyways, have you talked to her about it? Or mentioned it to your dad, who seems to be the one thinking equally? He may be able to do something. Often times the parent doesn't realize that they're treating their children differently. It seems more like you just want her off your back than anything, as you've said that you're taking care of yourself. Perhaps she's threatened by how you no longer need her or your father to support yourself. It all comes down to talking to her about it.

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Originally Posted by jpnezeshorty

It's nice that you're trying to be independent about your wedding expenses, but if your parents are willing to pay for some of it, I don't see why you should push them away.

But from the sound of it, it seems like her parents (at least her mom) aren't at all willing to pay for the wedding... she said that her mom just wanted them to get a marriage liscense and skip the whole wedding thing. That is just a tad unfair to me.

I'd still say talk to her, and like Shorty said, if it escalates to bad proportions, a therapist may be in order. You wouldnt want something like this to affect your children.

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