A Confusing Situation

Ironically, I'm at the second paragraph that you are at at the moment. It will stay that way.

What I have to say is on what you said here:

"I agree that she isn't entirely wrong in her assessment, because I had no right to continue to have feelings for her after I became aware that she had a fiance."

Best thing to do here? It's cliched, but it works: write her a letter, and then put it in an envelope, and throw it away. That think about having no right to have feelings? Come on. Hormones don't care about social morals, they care about girls. Let it out, but in a way that hurts neither of you, and then just keep walking in the halls. There are other fish in the sea (something I'm going to have to accept as well...)

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Kostaki

Writing is actually the only method I've had to cope with all this, and I've written so much that I could probably turn it into a novel. Wouldn't exactly be the most exciting novel in the world, but a novel nonetheless. But yeah, I've just become frustrated with having to continually hear "move on" and "forget about it" and "leave it alone" and "there are others out there" and "you'll find better" and all that. It's all I've ever heard really.

I'm really just not the type that can move on from girl to girl just like that, because once I become committed to whatever feelings I have they last until something big happens that can make me want to break that commitment. Just the kind of person I am really, I stay true to the feelings I have until they fade away.

I hope your situation works out for you, because the hell I've gone through the last three months trying to figure out what the hell happened with me and the whole situation is not something I would recommend anyone have to go through.

That's what I'm saying, though. While we suggest that you should move on, don't feel bad that you can't. Some people move at different speeds. The fact that you're putting your emotions into writing is excellent, and it's a step. The thing about other genders...you can't win all the time. When we tell you to move on, we believe it will be best for you as a person, but again, hormones don't think about social elements.

But you can win. And eventually you will; you just had shitty luck the first time. Until then, find an outlet for your emotions and pour it into that, and soon it will mull over.

As for my situation, I would call it ended already. I'm good, and I've gone elsewhere.

There's nowhere I can't reach.