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Right first off, your correct in not being willing to give up someone you love for someone you could never learn to love. You now already you couldn't love her so stay well away from that area! Also if she's unwilling to sort things out then please don't feel she is your responsibility, or feel that everything will be alright if you go with her, chances are they wont. As you mentioned yourself she acts like your nothing but a rebound. You aren't! Don't even think that you are. You were correct in saying that for things to get better she has to want them to get better, but her sitting there saying she was going to slit her wrists infront of her mum gives the indication she doesn't want it to get better, she wants some attention. (my personal experience has taught me that)
Secondly Dan giving you space is signaling he may not be comfy being around your house due to dad having a problem with the situation he found you two in. However it was innocent so I think he needs to chill a little. Dan coming on strongly to you shows he still wants you, but maybe you have the problem with letting go and letting him be in charge as your scared what your dad may say? (guessing here) Also it could be because your used to be dominating and being in charge, try it the other way round with you being in charge if you feel the same you may not be 100% sure about the relationship.
Severing ties with Tony is smart you don't need that trouble at the minute.
Erm lastly it's not wrong to want to live your rights now your with a guy, your father may see it as a burden or wrong but you should still feel able to do as you were when you were with a female. End of.
sorry if this has been no help.

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Glad I could help a little bit. And I'm really happy for you that everything seems to working itself out especially with the apartment situation. Best of luck and everything.

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