Age Barriers in Romance

Originally Posted by Forsety

I have a girl who is way too young interested in me right now. It's actually rather shitty because she seems mature, but I've made that mistake before thinking someone was "mature for their age" and it turns out they really weren't. (I guess all that really means is they aren't idiots, which isn't really good enough.)

When I first met my current girlfriend, I thought she was mature for her age, but I'm starting to wonder about this. (I'm 18, she's 15 and we've been "together" for over a year, but things haven't been great lately as a result. Now that I've finished high school I feel like I've "moved on", but she's not in the same zone as me. To further compound issues, her dad is an asshat and she refuses to stand up to him. (Another story for another thread, probably)

I don't think I'll date quite this young again. As for older, I'd potentially date up to about 23-24.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I should set a few things straight here...
As much as I'd like to be, I'm not sleeping with this girl. She's not ready and I'm cool with that.
She hasn't actually told her parents that we're dating, for fear of her father's wrath. (He hits her and shit sometimes)
Her parents are "conservative Christians". =/

One one hand I wish she'd be honest about the nature of things and just tell them, on the other, I'm concerned for her safety (and perhaps my own) if they really do get pissy.
Either way, we've kept it from them this long (13 months) so at this point I guess it could go on indefinitely.

How ya doing, buddy?

Looks like you're trying to attack my character there and impose your own morals on me, Sass.

Sure, things aren't perfect (what relationship is?) but we're good together. I'm more than happy to give the relationship the time and patience that it deserves. We share a lot of interests and enjoy each others' company. If I didn't like her personality, why would I stand by her for this long?
Of course there are sexual thoughts on my mind- I won't deny that, but I'm plenty capable of maintaining self-discipline. This is a non-issue.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Of course I'm attacking your character. It's not a very good one.


Interests like hanging out at the mall, lip gloss, and Nickelodeon?

You're not a very good judge of character if you've come to such a conclusion after only a few forum posts.

and no. I hardly need to justify myself to people on the internet I don't know, but to put your cynical mind to rest, we like to play music together (she plays viola, I play cello), we both like sci-fi and anime, etc
Some of her other interests include archery, history and geology. Quite obviously a far cry from most 15 year old girls. I can always have an interesting conversation with her. The only doubts I'm having regarding her maturity are about her fear of her parents, other than that, things are just fine.

I entered into this thread with the intention of contributing to the discussion and possibly receiving some advice regarding dealing with her parents, not the intention of being attacked. It's served as a reminder to why I don't post often.
If you're all quite done, I'll be taking my leave from the thread.

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