How to cope with the loneliness after a party?

This has been a problem for me for a very long time. Near the end of parties with friends, I'd be very reluctant to say goodbye. When a person tries to say, "Let's call it a day," I'd distract that person with another chatting topic before she actually says it. And sometimes I would dread the end so much that my stomach aches about an hour before the party ends. I would feel very lonely and deserted on the way home, and the feelings would last for a night or two.


If my friends and I decide to meet on Friday night for a party, I'd be excited about the time we're about to spend together from Monday to Wednesday, and on Thursday I'd become a little depressed because I became aware that the party will end very soon and I'd be left alone again right after the party. On Friday morning my depression would become so great that I would feel like not attending the party because I know that in the end it's just going to ... end. During the party I would not be able to fully enjoy my time with friends because I was so occupied with the worry that all the fun will end soon.


I really need some advice on this. Please share your opinions with me. Thank you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by bahamuty

Maybe you can start thinking some positive reinforcement when you find yourself starting to worry try to change your focus to "I'm going to a party tonight and I'm going to have a great time. Yeah, it'll end but that's OK. Because we can always have another party again."

Nice advice. I'll surely try that out next time. It sounds good but I'm not sure if it will work...

Originally Posted by Dhsu

I think post-party depression (har) might be a sign of a much deeper problem...you need to live your own life instead of letting it revolve around the time you spend with your friends. Learn how to enjoy yourself without the help of other people. Also remember that even away from a party, it's possible to interact with your friends. You can talk to them at school/work, or if you're at home you can send them an IM, post on their Facebook/MySpace, call 'em up or fire up Skype, play an online game and trashtalk them over voicechat...there are plenty of ways to be social without the alcohol.

As amazing as it may sound, I think I have forgotten how to spend time being alone. I often feel that being alone kind of makes you seem like a person with no friends to hang out with. I'm very self-concious and being alone makes me feel that I'm... unpopular. Being alone makes me uneasy, sometimes so badly that I cry. That's why I often need to have a companion with me, for things as simple as walking from one classroom to another. I really don't know how to work on this built-in concept of mine.

How ya doing, buddy?