Being shy sucks, for real

I've suffered from shyness throughout my life, but overcame it. A lot of people use alcohol to open up, which I am very much against, although I don't dislike drinkers. Just not my thing. I got over it with a variety of ways. First thing is to learn to not care about what others think about you. I think my shyness came from being ridiculed at times in my childhood. I used that as motivation to become a better person all around. There are assholes everywhere so you are just going to have to deal with meeting people like that sometimes.

Give yourself reasons to be confident in yourself. Stay motivated and focused in life is one of the best ways. For example: some people are shy around girls because they don't think they are good looking or are too pudgy or whatever. There is usually something behind your shyness that you don't like about yourself, thus you are worried that others won't like that same quality about you as well. So stay motivated and try to make yourself the best possible person you can. Again, the best way to be confident in others liking you is if you like yourself.

I used to be shy around girls, because I thought I was too scrawny and weak. So I bust my ass lifting weights every day to get bigger, stronger, and more cut. It gave me more confidence.

So basically my advice would be to sit down and think about why you are shy. Ask yourself. Be honest with yourself. Is it something that you are afraid they won't like? Maybe that isn't your problem. Some people it has nothing to do with that. Maybe you are just one of those people that is shy for no apparent reason.

If that is the case, then the best way is probably to get your feet wet. Just like anything else, once you try something and realize it isn't so bad, you are less likely to be nervous in that regard in the future. So just try making some friends. Just be nice, polite, and be yourself. Never try to be another personality just so people will like you. If you get rejected, then realize it isn't the end of the world and use it as motivation to make friends.

Jam it back in, in the dark.