What is cheating?

I agree with Devoxycontin. Just because you violate their trust does not mean you cheated. Cheating on someone is nothing less than an intimate sexual moment with them. It can be a kiss or it can be sex. A hug is not cheating. Going out to dinner with someone is not cheating. An intimate sexual moment has to occur.

If your significant other gets pissed because you went out with someone for a dinner or something simply as friends, then she is the problem not you. She has to trust you that you'd never cheat on her until proven otherwise. If not then it is her fault for being overcome with jealousy and IMO is disrespectful to you that she doesn't trust you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Bernard Black

Does it count if they've been text dating? For instance, naked pictures of each other, texting talking about how much they want to fuck each other? As far as I am aware (or would like to believe) nothing happened physically, but this still pissed me off.

That isn't cheating, but it still doesn't make it right. For example: just because something isn't considered cheating doesn't mean it isn't disrespectful to your girlfriend/wife/etc.

It isn't cheating, but it shows you're at least contemplating cheating in the future which is a valid reason for someone to break up with you.

So in summary: cheating? No. Still bad? Yes.

All in all, whether it is cheating or not isn't even relevant to be honest. If it is something you don't feel comfortable telling your girlfriend or boyfriend about then just don't do it. They don't need to an air-tight case to end a relationship with you. This isn't Seinfeld.

There's nowhere I can't reach.