too cocky, now i need help

I agree. there's a time to be cocky, but there's a time to be serious. I should know, cause around here where I live, I am one of the cockiest SOB's around, but I also have my serious side too, and most times, I'm cocky just to be an ass sometimes, but my friends and family know it's all in fun, and I can be very serious too, it really goes back to the whole Honesty being the best policy, and if you were doing this to impress her, then tell her how you feel, put all the machness behind you, and express how you feel, and she'll understand. but if it doesn't, recoup your losses and still be her friend, regardless. don't lose it all because you lost one thing

and besides, one lesson in my life that led me to 8 years of bf and gf and then marriage was "no guts, no glory"

Jam it back in, in the dark.