Society's unwritten rules.

Originally Posted by Summonmaster

I cringe repulsively when someone gives me a limp unenthusiastic handshake. It just doesn't feel right to be so apathetic. I've always associated a firm handshake with "goodwill", and not firm, but far from limp handshake to be "nice to meet you (but I'm not really as interested as I should be)". I lose respect instantly if I'm shaking hands with jello.

I don’t want to sound offensive or critique your views, but sometimes people cant control the strength of their handshake. They might have a reason for not having that firm grip while shaking hands. I know that I don’t and neither does my mom, but she has carpel tunnel, and I broke my wrist a few years back. That doesn’t make us uninteresting or not deserving of your respect.

Although I understand the importance of a firm and steady handshake, I also understand that you cant judge someone by first impressions. Granted the first physical contact with someone is important, it just should not be something that you base respect off of.


When it comes to having a meal with someone or a group of friends, we tend to split the tip between us. If someone is short, usually someone tells them that they will pay for whatever he/she got, just aslong as they pay them back in some for or another. Witht he group of friends I have we normally barter with free movie passes or using someone employee discount at their workplace.

When it comes to the unwritten rules on girls, I was always told to be polite and caring. Hold doors open, let them sit first, order first and everthing like that. If she wants to pay then I let her pay for her portion, but I refuse to split the tip. It was basically just give her want she wants and be as nice as you possible.

How ya doing, buddy?

I say if I can feel you breathing on my neck then you are too close. Anyone doing that or the like would automatically get elbowed in the sternum.

I also think public displays of affection violate personal space. If we have to share the same general area with each other then please do not jam your tounge down your boyfriend's throat and dont make him squeeze your ass while you're at it. That is really inappropriate for people of a younger age to see. Bad enough we have them mimicking tv and movies, they dont need to see you dry humping in the middle of Wal-Mart.

When walking near someone, be cautious of their walking speed. If they keep stepping on the back of your shoes, walk behind them, or walk next to them. Just dont disrupt curb traffic while you are doing so, cause then you will piss of others. Other than that, personal space is just that. If someone in your's tell them to get out.

There's nowhere I can't reach.