While I agree with the poster above me to a limited extent, I think the answer to the topic question is "both".
You're kind of confounding me with your logic. My view is simply that physical attraction comes secondary to mental and personality attraction.
Case in point- there was an ad for "America's Next Top Model" last night, and although some of those girls were physically attractive, they sure as fuck didn't satisfy criteria number 2.
As for love vs. sex, I see sex as love played out between two people. Obviously in the real world, people screw for shitloads of reasons, being horny the main one, but I was never interested in having sex for the sake of it (I've had, and still have, too many male friends who go clubbing all the time, sleeping around, and wonder why they're desperately lonely and unhappy). That said, I like sex very much
Just on the woman who's dating the bad back guy- is there no way to 'cure' or remedy the problem? I don't mean the sexual one either!
- Spike
Jam it back in, in the dark.