Society's unwritten rules.

As a woman with small hands, I appreciate it when people are gentle, yet I do know the importance of a firm handshake as well. It's a hard balance sometimes to get it right between genders, but I try.

I also agree that the drinking rule is a bit obnoxious. Going out and having some drinks while being social with friends doesn't bother me. Going out to get drunk and/or to laugh at drunk people throwing up does. Whatever floats your boat I guess, just count me out of the latter.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

In my family we always ask if a guest is hungry or wants something to drink. No big deal.

The bigger issue is when we go out for dinner and everyone argues over who pays the bill. Not trying to pass off the bill, but actually, "We'll get the bill." "No, we're taking you out." "Can we at least get the tip?" I still can't figure that one out, I wish there was some rule for it.

Commenting on an earlier post, I just learned recently that women are supposed to offer their hands first for shaking hands. I was going to someplace for a possible interview and my mom was like, "The lady is supposed to offer her hand first." and I was like, "What lady?" Silly me!

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That's a good idea! I'll have to keep that in mind. I don't think it'll fly with my grandparents, though it would be funny.

My friends and I don't mind covering each other every once in a while if someone is short, so long as we either pay them back later or cover them the next time. That was always nice.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I've always been happy to hold doors open for people. Especially if they're elderly, traveling with small kids/stroller, or have their hands full. It drives me nuts when I see people try to duck through a closing door when there's someone behind them, or not push it back to allow more time for the other person. Especially when it's one of my friends. "Hey!"

Anyone have any unwritten rules for personal space? I have a friend who never fails to step on the back of my shoe. There should be a rule for that!!

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

I used to stick with the old common 15% tip rate. That is, until I learned how much of a crap wage wait staff actually makes. So if the service is good, I'll tip more than that; if it's bad, it's the flat 15%.

I was speaking idiomatically.

I never eat at places where the meals costs $50, so I never thought about that.

As for America, I think part of why wait staff only gets about half of minimum wage is because it's expected they'll make it up in tips. It is pretty crappy.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I'd say that also depends on how busy the place is and how much staff they have on hand.

I worked at Burger King one summer and working understaffed is hell. The BK I worked at got a lot of business, so falling behind because they didn't schedule enough morning crew sucked a LOT. It's not that we weren't trying. Course it still doesn't matter to the customers. They can't see how many people are on staff. So it can't really be used as an excuse, but it would be nice if customers would sometimes consider there may be a valid reason for the lag.

Drinks are so important in the food service world. I learned to give cups out RIGHT AWAY, because for some reason, having at least a drink makes the wait on food a lot easier. That should be a BIG unwritten rule!

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There was one time where a waitress gave such bad service that I wanted to tip her poorly. I can't remember exactly what she did, but she had an ATTITUDE and it pissed me off. Unfortunately, I was with a large group and the tip was factored INTO the bill. That pissed me off too. On the flipside, that place had one of the best hot turkey and gravy sandwiches I've ever had.

FELIPE NO

I think this is the first time I've ever actually seen "ZOMG GRAMMAR POLICE" used on the internet. All I need to see now is the Niagara Falls and my life can be complete!! If I cared.

So on the topic of grammar! Or spelling... any unwritten rules on when vs when not to correct people? I'm all for trying to help point out stuff when someone's confused or if it's a mistake they tend to use a lot. But some people are just so touchy...

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Originally Posted by Hachifusa

Speaking of which, what about proper language in front of the parents? This bother any one else? I hate when kids don't speak very well to their mother in public.

I hate that a lot. Actually, almost more than that I hate it when parents don't use proper language in front of their own children, or just yell at them. What are they teaching them?

But yeah, I never swear in front of adults, especially ones who I should or do respect. I want their respect back, after all.

...I still see myself as a kid apparently. Hahaha.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I didn't realise that queue...ing was such a sport! That's pretty amusing. I don't mind so much if someone cuts in line if they're not buying anything, but if they are it's like, "Excuse me?"

What I hated more though was the one time I wanted to go through the "10 Items or Less" lane at Target and there was some lady with 34985730497 articles of clothing. I wish I knew what the story behind that was. /small rant

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