Blind Dates

Visavi, at times it seems like I strangely I relate to you. I haven't been able to land a successful relationship at all, and basically it's from similar circumstances with yours. In short, the guys don't cut it. My journal has a couple entries on a failed attempt from someone to ask me out (sad, but true). I understand the frustration of not being able to get a suitable guy to fit yourself. And I also did receive varying complements on "you're a cute smart girl" etc. that make them come off as creepy instead of what they think they're trying to come off as.

First off, not being able to swap pictures is a bad sign. Since he's been given yours, I would expect that you should receive his. I don't think it's bad to ask your friend to at least describe him physically, ex: height, build, hair color, etc. You already have his personality/hobby descriptions, it's only fair that you receive something on his end.

I've been on a few blind dates. All didn't work out. I couldn't get myself to agree for a second. These guys are nice, yes, but obviously there is something that acts as an obstacle between us. Personality of course isn't everything, contrary to idealistic beliefs. And I did have to face the constant phone calls, then me making up constant lame excuses. Constant knocks on my dorm door. Constant IM messages. Things like that get annoying; I've been through that too. You just learn to deal.

Another thing, you shouldn't be hasty to assume he's a fat and ugly no life. Go on a blind date with him, invite one of your close friends to accompany you, and then you don't have to deal with him pulling any intimate moves. If this date proves unsuccessful, then tell him that you're not interested (in a nice way of course). And who says you have to kiss on the first date? Don't follow that unless you actually like him! That will only lead to more trouble down the road (that you plan to cut short if you do).

Also, instead of whining, why not you take the initiative yourself? I feel like sometimes life is too short for waiting, so take a chance on the next good looking guy you come across and see where that takes you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.