Dating criteria

Wow you guys have a lot of things you look for I only have one on my list

1. PERFECTION - This means you're hot, not a shithead, intelligent with a sense of humor, loads of common sense and a healthy sex drive, you're honest and communicative and you want me, you respect me and yourself and you know who you are and where you're going in life.

But really if you take all the subpoints in there, you've got my list - not necessarily in order of priority, though. I don't care how hot the girl is if she acts like a shithead or can't/won't communicate.

Digging deeper, there's a lot more to it - I've met tons of girls who are smart, attractive, funny, and have a sense of purpose. Dozens, maybe even a hundred. But if you can show me someone who's complete in herself, who's comfortable enough with herself to know when to slow everything down, to linger in a moment just for the sake of the moment - someone who can appreciate romantic, one-in-a-million moments without FORCING them but just letting them happen... anyone whose passion for life is what defines them, not what they are aspiring for or who they keep company with... show me THAT girl, and I believe I'll have found perfection.

EDIT: Clearly, though, I won't know all this about the girl until after I've started dating her, so she really only needs to meet some/most of it for me to start wanting to discover her.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

You know, you kinda said alot of things other people said but listed it all as one thing. That doesn't really make your list any shorter...

WHAT

One thing I'm sure we're all starting to notice is that a lot of guys tend to find the exact same things attractive in a girl. So, in the natural order of things, girls in general probably find that among themselves, they all have similar tastes and opinions on what's attractive in guys (duh) though they tend to focus a little more beneath the surface than guys do. Not that they're necessarily "deep" since I've met more shallow girls than guys, but it's the subtext that girls seem to notice. Not what's being presented, maybe, but the WAY it's being presented?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Shorty

Question is, why should the girl have to talk all the time? Personally I prefer the quieter guys who don't say much, but can act sensibly, responsibly, and do shit without being told / act out of consideration for others.

On that note, why does the girl have to be even talkative for you to figure out if she's smart or not? Her being "Smart" does not equal to "Being able to hold a conversation or having the ability to talk to you," in my opinion.

Girls don't have to talk all the time, but I've never met a girl who wasn't talkative but could still communicate. If you find one, let me know.

To answer your question, the girl doesn't have to be talkative. However, if I don't really talk with her (and I'm not referring to idle chit-chat here) then I have absolutely no way of figuring out whether she has any sort of common sense or sanity as it pertains to life and everyday issues. If I was dating a mute, we would still communicate as best we could without spoken word, and I would still go through some form of conversation with her to figure out just how her cute little brain works. However, I don't think I would date a mute - not out of any prejudice, and certainly if she made a strong enough impression on me I'd give her a chance. I just really enjoy talking with people, especially girls. It's the best way to figure people out.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.