Veritas

Member 12774

Level 31.07

Sep 2006

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Dec 13, 2006, 03:31 PM
Local time: Dec 13, 2006, 02:31 PM
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I'd definitely say I'm guilty of seeking approval from women more than from other men, but with me it's hardly ever in an obvious fashion, and I usually don't realize I'm doing it until afterward. I'll find little subtle ways to discover if she enjoyed the time she spent with me - sometimes I'll ask her straight-out if she had a good time, but usually I just ask trigger questions or say something that will make her gush about how she felt it all went.
If all I get is an "it was okay" or worse, then I get pretty disappointed and immediately try to find a way to make the date/hang-out more enjoyable.
I am trying to get myself to where I don't feel I need approval and validation, and I've come pretty far from where I used to be - I used to practically beg for it, and so of course never get it - but I've still got a ways to go. Approval from women is still very very important to me. I could care less if a man completely disapproves of me and/or my actions, but it's hard for me to shrug off a woman's disapproval, even if it's all entirely her problem.
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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