Have you/would you stay with someone if they cheated?

In relationships, I've found myself to be very laid-back, I don't get jealous easily or often. Sure, there are always those little sparks of jealousy, mental reactions like "Wait, you'd rather spend time with this other person than me?" or "This is more important to you than what I have lined up?" but it's usually fairly easy for me to shrug those off the moment they show up.

But if she cheated on me?

I really don't know. It might be difficult for a while after the cheating occurred, but honestly, I think I would stay with her. My rule about cheating, though I've never had a chance to see if it works very well (thank goodness) is that once is forgivable under most circumstances, but I won't stick around if it happens twice.

My reasoning behind it is that everyone has a GOOD reason for everything they do, even if they don't know it consciously. So if she cheats, there's something lacking in the relationship and I'm willing to try to work with her to figure out what it is and overcome it. But if she does it a second time, obviously she's NOT willing to work with me and can't control her urges, and that's not someone I want to be with anyway.

I'm not saying that cheating is always a mistake or always unintentional, I'm not quite that naive, but I am saying that everyone has desires, and I'm pretty sure everyone has desires they "shouldn't" and sometimes they act on them, for whatever reason.

It would be easier to forgive if the cheater confessed and felt remorse, I'm sure, rather than me having to find out myself and confront them about it.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Claiming you can ALWAYS tell when a women (lol) lies is kind of like claiming you're ALWAYS right. It's a statement that's true only in your mind, more often than not. Also, I am at a loss to explain how you grew up at all, if you were around womens when you were supposed to be doing this so-called "growing up." "Grown-up" and "women" just don't go together unless you're real lucky.

All right so maybe that was a little bit harsh. Sorry womens. Didn't completely mean that. Only halfway. Two-thirds maybe.

And if you overreact that much about a women simply flurting (best spelling EVAR, will use from now on) then I would suggest you never have a relationship, because flurting happens naturally even if the two people aren't attracted to each other, on a conscious level anyway. "Flurting" near as I can tell is just a label put on "joking around." Every time I give my waitress a hard time and tease her about the way she takes our orders or something, I am accused of flurting with my waitress, but I say Nay, this is not my intent. I am simply comfortable with myself and she provided the opportunity for a joke or a jab, so I took it, much the same as I would do with any of my friends or even slight acquaintances. And chances are I made her day ten times better with my hilarious "flurting" which gave her a break from all the grumpy sourpusses that line the tables here. No no, if that was flurting, then I flurt with everyone, including guys.

How ya doing, buddy?

I "grew up" around male-bashing wemon (lol again) as well. 5 sisters, 3 brothers, and I am the middle child. So I know where you're coming from.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Uh... so what are you gonna do? Make her want you again, then get with her and screw another girl? Or perhaps screw her sister? :lolsign:

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