First "breakup"

Heh

Now it's time where I post about something no one really cares about and is hated among forums.

I have just went through my first breakup with my first girlfriend after pretty much 8 months. I guess I just don't know what or how to react to any of this. I have been sad, I have been happy, I have been wrecked, I have just been an emotional wreck of ridiculousness.

I knew it was going to happen, and things haven't been the best between both, but I just don't know if I should keep asking for her to come back (even though, she probably wont). I just don't really know how to move on, but then again it's only been a day since it happened.

Then again I guess this comes with the whole package of having a relationship. I guess I am just asking how the hell can I move on from this without being so rediculous. Everything in my room has pretty much to do with her, from posters to a guitar that she bought me to books. I am not sure just if I should give them all back or not.

I guess now, I am not to upset about it, I just want to move on and not care about it. I have tried talking to friends, it helped a bit. I guess I am in denial about being alone again.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

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Dude, don't give back any stuff that she gave you. You don't expect her to return anything that you gave to her do you? Borrowed items are different...

I just don't want anything that reminds me of her. I don't care if she gives the stuff I gave to her, I just don't want her stuff.

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Basically you need to take this opportunity to get back into any hobbies or activities that you neglected while with her, if any, and just do your own thing. You'll be emotionally fine before you even know it.

Playing video games and random other things just don't interest me much like they used to. I am trying to just involve myself more with friends so it's all easier to forget about.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I guess I am not too bad with it anymore..

In a day I found out that she has dumped me, to go back into her drug habbits that she used to have. So, pretty much she dumped me for pot and alchohol, which I didn't agree with at all and find fucking stupid. It sure makes it a lot easier to get over.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Yeah

It's not easy getting over at all, I tried to do everything I could to not care, but today was just really hard. It was on my mind so much that my stomache and chest were hurting just thinking about what was actually going on.

I have been out of the house quite a bit since it happened, but it still gets to me a lot. She likes another guy, was smoking pot with one of my good friends who just recently told me he sold pot for money, and it has all just been really ridiculous. It's like something so unbelievable stupid that happened, and I did nothing to deserve it.

I would and will never get pulled into doing drugs or drinking unless it's under my own terms. There have been many attemps by MANY different people, including close friends, but I will never do it.

Everyone is telling me to move on, there are other girls, which is true. Hell it even says it in the description of this board, but it's really hard to do when you think you have helped someone and loved them and then it ends because she has a crush.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

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Um, pretty much everyone I know drinks and smokes weed. I wouldn't say that I'm better than them because I don't. It's just a choice, and as long as it doesn't become a serious problem, who really cares?

I really care, I don't want to be known as someone who would be associated with drugs or alchohol. With friends, I only have maybe one who drinks and smokes and I think IT'S FUCKING STUPID, and I hope he reads that since he is on this board "Shiny Mcshine".

It has been hard enough not to do any of that crap with people all around this town who offer it, go to parties and fuck themselves up all the time. There are so many stories that involve alchohol that I hate that have had to do with friends, from crashing cars, rape, and death. If that isn't enough to drive me away from drinking then I don't know what is.

I guess I would rather just have a "clean" girlfriend, rather than one who feels they need pot or to get drunk every weekend.

I am over the whole situation, but what is harder is she said she was thinking about letting me have another chance, but right now...I am not even sure if I want another chance with her because all of the stuff I have heard she has been doing lately.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by chaofan

Another chance? With a druggie?

Okay, I guess the reason you went out with her was cause she was good looking. If so: THERE ARE BAZILLIONS OF HOT CHICKS OUT THERE. My advice to you, take it or leave it, is to get back into doing the things you love so that you can stay yourself. And when you stay urself, an attractive AND nice (they do exist) girl will come to you. You don't find love, love finds you (this I can say from personal experience).

No, The reason I went out with her was because we connected so well, with music and art. I sadly met her online and I had no idea what she looked like, but I liked her from the beginning. When I met her, I did find her very attractive though.

Going out with a hot girl just because she is hot is quite ridiculous to me. Something I wouldn't do just based on that. What I thought I had with her was love, I still feel something and it's not something easily to get over, but oh well.

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However, if you went out with her because she's nice: Bullshit. Everyone can be nice when they feel like it. It all comes down to trust really, and by your entries so far I concluded that she is a deceitful, dirty and unsympathetic girl who don't care about your feelings. Give her a miss.

It's sad reading this, she was nice...for a few months. 6 months of being nice and then somehow something went horribly wrong. She went and smoked pot, which is a promise she broke, so trust was out the window.

She seems quite deceitful, and unsympethetic based on her current actions, and it just wasn't good. Even though at the end the relationship went to shit (the last two months) I just still wish it was happening.

Oh well, I have to move on, and it's fucking not that easy.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?