Significant others that snoop (dogg)

There are some things I honestly don't want to know about my girlfriend. I'm sure that as much as she loves me she still gets a little angry with me from time to time, and if she were sending PMs about that to her friends, I'd rather not read exactly what she wrote.

We're members of the same forum, so we see a lot of each other's internet happenings, anyway. That's how we met. It wasn't on GFF though.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

So you'd rather her bitch to her friends on the internet than to come to you and talk to you about what problems she's having with you?

That's not what I meant, and I admit that the way I chose to put that was completely wrong. What I mean is that I know there were times in the past when we had issues. I believe those issues to have eventually been resolved. Like you said, we talked about it, and eventually some things changed on both sides.

I'm not interested in snooping on her anyway. She tells me everything that's important, as far as I know, but if I were to read her private communications, I'd be able to see anything that she said to her friends at those times, and frankly I find that a frightening prospect. Although we eventually resolved our differences, I think I would still find any such communications a disturbing read.

Does that make any more sense? I'm not saying that I think she has any cause to vent right now, or that I'd rather her vent her frustrations to her friends than talk things over with me. I'm just saying that in general, the snooping partner takes the risk of reading things that they might find uncomfortable about the past, or worse... the present.

I'm sure I don't have any reason to worry right now, but still the prospect of learning something unpleasant about the past would upset me. We've resolved our differences right now. If there was something additional that she didn't tell me at the time, but that she said to her friends, does it really do me any good to know? I assume it would be something minor, since we appear to have resolved the major issues, but it could still be something quite hurtful to read.

Some things are best left in the past.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Divest

When a significant other start spying, it usually means the end of a relationship is coming. Or things are going to start getting REALLY rocky.

That would also be my opinion.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.