What does this mean? (My first girl problem)

Originally Posted by Cobra Commander

I personally thought things were going great but she tells me one day that she just doesn't feel right meaning she thinks she doesn't feel for me in that way.

I really do apologise if the following seems harsh, but the lesson to be learned from this is crucial. The you that she knew while you were dating is somehow less appealing than the you she knew before you asked her out. She liked you well enough to go out with you on a few dates, so you have an opportunity now to figure out where exactly you dropped the ball.

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THIS is the part I have a problem with. She said she rather just get to know me better and hang out more as friends...

That is something a woman says when she wants to let you down easy. If she can manage to let you down nice and easy she can avoid any unpleasant breakup scenes. It seems like it is usually a good policy.

I hate to be blunt, but it may just have been something nice to say at that time. It may not mean that she wanted to be your friend. It may not mean she wanted to get to know you better. It may just mean that she wanted to make it easy on herself.

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But she is completely avoiding me now. I have tried a couple times to initiate a meeting or even just talking and each time I get no response. I mean even before we started dating I would get some kind of reply, but now...nothing.

This is why I'm inclined to suggest that you dropped the ball somehow. Up until the moment you started dating, it would appear that this woman quite liked you. You guys were apparently on friendly terms for some time, and she was sufficiently attracted to you to respond favourably to your advances.

That's what I get from your post, anyway.

Once you started dating, she obviously liked you well enough to stick around for a month. Presumably you saw a lot of each other in that time, because new couples tend to be joined at the hips. I can't begin to speculate on what would have put her off, but it seems clear that something about the way you act in a relationship put her off. Once she agreed to go out on a date with you, you could reasonably draw the conclusion that she was interested, and from the currrent situation, you must draw the conclusion that she is not interested anymore.

What changed? Only you or she can answer that, but there must have been something.

I don't mean to be harsh, I'm just saying that you can learn from this. Sometimes it's the best thing. Even in long-term couples, sometimes a big fight really helps to bring to light what needs to change. We learn by making mistakes, and then working hard to not make the same ones again.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by niki

There isn't necessary a clear reason. In fact, below 20, I'd say most of the time there's isn't. You really don't have to blame it on yourself.

It has been my (admittedly limited) experience that there is always a reason. There isn't always a reason that you get to find out about, but there's always a reason. Sometimes you find out later, and it make everything become clear.

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Originally Posted by MakoAoyama

The first thing I have to ask, and I mean no offense here, is how old are you?
I get the impression you are still in high school, in which case it is most definitely not your fault. High school girls are notorious for changing their mind every two seconds and never knowing what they want. It's the very reason why some of them literally have a new boyfriend every week.

Yeah. If that's the case, scrub everything I just said. I'm speaking from the perspective of a guy in his thirties, dating women of a similar age. I suppose the sort of thing I said is really only applicable to adult dating.

With kids, there really can be a breakup for just no reason at all.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.