Dead Son will become New Father

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I think it's absurb. But I am sure some will surely disagree with me.

Probably. I'm not one of them though. It seems lilke we only have the mother's word that he wanted to be a father in any case, so I can't help but see this as trampling on his rights, and his dignity to a certain extent. How can we know that he would want this? A lot of people might say they want children some day, but how many are entirely certain? How many follow through with it? I doubt it is all of them. The majority, perhaps do, but not all.

Even if he did want a child, he probably wanted to have it with someone he was in love with. That's the way it is done. Most people seem want to have children because they dream of raising it with their partner. If it was enough to just have a biological offspring 'out there' somewhere, then you would probably see a lot more babies put up for adoption.

From the comments: "You deserve to be a grandmother".

What.

Seriously.... what?

How exactly does one deserve to be a grandmother? Does that mean that if my parents deserve to be grandparents, then I would be a bad son if I don't provide them? I don't think so, ya know. My life just isn't going in that direction right now, and it might never go there. I don't feel like a bad son.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I was considering raising that point (about being in love with someone), but I thought it was a little too wishy-washy. But yea, I believe that.

I really do believe it. Imagine that he's watching right now. This satisfies his dream, presuming that it was really a dream he had? I don't think so - his dream involved a loving wife and a good job, most likely. It probably involved getting to hold his child, and be a part of the life of that child as it grew older.

It may be a wishy-washy argument, but it pokes a dozen or more holes in the mother's claim that she's doing this for her son.

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I do not, by any means, feel that the mother should pick the mother of her grand daughter. It seems like she just wants a grand kid at any cost. Sure, it may not be! I mean, afterall, she dreamed of her son coming to her and asking where his kid is! Thats not projection at all!

I just wish people were a little less adamant about their own desires, I guess.

Or at least a little more honest. If she would just say that she wanted this grandkid for herself, I could at least not laugh at her. As it is, I just see her being dishonest to herself and to others, and trying to pretend that her selfish desires are anything but.

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It seems almost greed-driven, in a way. I want to slap the bitch.

You said it. I don't think I'd go as far as a slap, but it's purely self-centred behaviour. The fact that she is claiming that it's all for her son is just irritating. Probably most women with kids would like to be a grandmother, but this is no way to go about it.

Editing my posts when I get extra thoughts is a bad habit, I'm trying to break myself of it. I need to think more before I hit that "submit" button. I didn't change my main point too much though. I just made it look more tidy.

How ya doing, buddy?