Am I doing something wrong? ... =(

First of all, if you treat women like some otherworldly, unapproachable class of human being, you have to stop. Most women I know feel uncomfortable when a guy (especially a guy they hardly know) puts them on a pedestal of some kind. Try not to generalize women -- we're all humans, after all, and while there are some mental and emotional differences due to biology, putting women into one big group behaviorally is just counterproductive.


Next, you need to go out and make new friends, male and female. Doing so will allow you to become more confident about yourself, and in turn, makes it you more attractive.
Make friends with the intention of making friends, not in the hope of getting into a relationship, because believe me, people can smell that a MILE away. Make friends not just with your peers, but all kinds of people -- adults, children, professionals, students, so that you can learn about people, and by doing so, learn mmore about how you react in social situations. Self-confidence comes from knowing yourself as well as other people.

I understand that it might be hard for you to make friends, so a few suggestions -- join a club, or take up an activity, hobby or a sport. There are many ways you can do this -- join a martial arts dojo, maybe? Volunteer at a local charity? Check the city council for lists of activities you can do? Look up clubs at a local university? And yes, approaching and joining a group when you're alone and shy -can- be intimidating, but to gain the benefits of being in one, you need to overcome your shyness.

Of course, that's the key -- overcoming your shyness. It might help you to know that a lot of people are as shy as you are -- so why not take the initiative and talk with them? You might be surprised at how friendly people get. And if someone seems unfriendly, or downright hostile, just leave them alone, and find someone else to talk with -- it's their loss. After a while, you'll get better in differentiating between someone who's reserved or shy and someone who's genuinely uninterested talking with you.

Lastly.. I know about this whole "friend zone" business, and while I have talked to some women who said they'd feel uncomfortable dating their best male friends, my current girlfriend and I were friends for a year before we started dating 2 years ago. I guess my experience has been that the "friend zone" concept is a generalization, and that not all women (or men, for that matter), act that way. So, don't be afraid to befriend women -- but also, again, beware of befriending people in the hopes of getting with them. Just go out and make friends with no hopes or ulterior motives, and eventually, you might find someone who likes you enough to start a relationship with you.

Good luck!

Jam it back in, in the dark.