how do you know if you really love someone?

Where I think people get fucked up is that they've been programmed to believe that love is somehow permanent or unchanging.

For somepeople, it is. But, from my experience it's changing. My grandparents have been married for 60 years, now. Their relationship now is completely different than it was before. As you get older and you spend more time with each other, there're other types of attachments that aren't "love," they're comfortable with eachother and trust each other. To me, even if you don't feel that same thing you did before, but you still feel comfortable around them and you can trust them, then that's perfectly normal.

The idea that you have to find that "one" that you settle down with or enter into a permanently binding contract with is actually an entirely "made-up" concept that has developed out human social evolution, and for a long time it "worked." But, not so much anymore.

How ya doing, buddy?

Well, anthropologically speaking, your mate was sort of a result of your "fitness" within the social group, alpha-male/alpha-female type situation. Then we get into tribal social structures and the picture changes slightly, it could've been anywhere from predetermined, arranged marriage or it could've been closer to the "dominance" idea.

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