Your Relationship with your Parents

My relations with my parents is extremely bad. My father is a spoiled brat that couldnt make his own living toward family, my mother must work hard to schoolin my sis and me. Consequently, I never speak to my mother in daytime, only night will do because she always come home late. My granny is my mother, when she died year ago I cried as if I would like to go with her along. My father and my mother are not graduated from university, the way of their thinking is old-fashioned and conservative.

I know it's wrong to hate parents. But I just cant help it, my mother and my father always give least appreciation toward me. They never come to student concerts which I participated on, the reason is simply because they dont treat me as child, rather because of economic investment. That's what I thought from hourless lectures of my mother keep telling to become rich rich rich so that she will have happy living in her old day (it's common philosophy in chinese family).

But you know, everyone have problem, so all I could do is to become parent of my parent. by maturing myself and understanding their problems, I could
overcome my need to be loved by them.

Originally Posted by doodle

I love my mother - she is an incredibly selfless human being, but dislike my father. He is quite possibly the most passive-aggressive, petulant, ill-mannered, bipolar person I have ever met, and the older I get the more I realize how fucking crazy he is - really, talking to him is like going in infuriating circles. He constantly criticizes my mother as well, and that pisses me off to no end. I feel sorry for her that she married the guy.

I know how you feel, It's really gruesome to have a dad that could be considered a parasite in your house.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Here's important question for you all: if your parent is passed away, let's just say the one you hate most... will you cry for him/her?

honestly, I wouldn cry for my father's death, because I never admit him as father. I have cried when my beloved granny passed away, and I swear to myself that I wont cry for anyone anymore. And also... how could you cry to someone you never able to love anyway?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Xuemin... reading what you've been through, it's must be kinda hard. coz that's exactly what I feel too. But I try to forgive my parents too, because they must be suffered something that make them unable to become "perfect" parent" for us.

But somehow we could learn something from our problems. Let's become better parents, at least not repeating the same mistakes...

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.