In the shadows

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Mar 2006

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Jun 30, 2006, 12:02 AM
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Well, Furby, maybe you should have asked her about how neat she was.
You know, I believe those statistics. That just comes from personal observation and what I've been told by people who help others with their relationships. And you know something, living together IS NOT THE SAME as marriage. Marriage is a commitment. Living together is "well, I'll try it out and if it doesn't work, I'll quit". It's a fake marriage with an escape hatch for those who don't want to work at their relationship and make compromises. It's for quitters. There will ALWAYS be differences between any two people. Thing is, if you are merely living together, it gives the feeling that you can leave for the smallest reason. If you are actually married, and formally committed, only something major like an abusive personality should be reason enough to end the relationship. You can see if you're basically compatible through conversation.
Bottom line: If you're thinking about living together, that probably means you want a long-term relationship. Make sure you have common values, goals, etc. If you do, you might as well just marry each other. You will need to get used to each other's living styles but if you talk about them before it shouldn't be a big deal. There's no reason to live together before marriage.
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