Moving in together.

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"WHAT. The woman in the relationship wants her space? Dude, don't fuck this up. You're set."

"Then, about three days after you move in, you can make a thread in here asking for help. =o"

QFT.

Stop Sign, I'm so jealous that my brown eyes have briefly turned fluorescent green. :P I'd wish you all the luck in the world if I thought you needed any.

Just to restate and reinforce a point, and also bring kudos to Stop Sign for making this point of points: The only really healthy relationship involves independent people living independent lives. Their lives interweave in interesting ways, and they are always there for each other, but they have respect for each other's space, and their human need for solitary self-exploration. Relationships aren't about holding each other up, they're about standing near enough that you can catch each other if you happen to fall.

guyinrubbersuit, you should definitely discuss the details before you finalize things. Shit, man, discussing the details after you've lined up an apartment and put in your notice is like signing a contract before the damned thing's even been written. Dude, you gotta tell her how you feel soon, because conversations become harder to start every time you put them off. Best possible outcome, she's totally unaware that she's not giving you the space you need and fully willing to adapt her behavior. Worst case scenario, she decides that you aren't worth her time and leaves you for someone who'll spend every waking moment with her and love it, meaning you get saved the trouble of being totally smothered to the point of having to break up with someone you're already living with. Believe me, I speak from experience here, that's not somewhere you wanna go if you can avoid it. No matter the outcome, having the conversation soon is most likely in your best interest.

Never put off 'til tomorrow what you can do today.

How ya doing, buddy?