Your Occupying Romances (Crushes!)

Wow, you guys are fucking harsh. It's just a crush, you lame brains! Dude isn't looking for your approval, he's looking for your stories. As though nobody here has ever crushed on someone they really shouldn't have... What's the point in lecturing the guy? You think it'll change the way he feels? Christ, you'd think he was the only one who ever had thoughts that society might frown upon. It's not like he seduced her with his maturity and dashing good looks here. Damn man, I'm 20 and I've found myself pondering "what ifs" regarding my 14-year-old friend, but it's because we're really good friends, not because I want to bone her. We all think about doing things that we'd never actually do.

And for the record, there's a world of difference between banging an 8 year old and being attracted to a 14 year old. The reason pedophilia is looked down upon is not because the act of sexual intercourse is disgusting, it's because it fucks with the kid's mental development. Clearly he cares about her, and that's the difference. Pedos don't care about ruining a kid's life, they don't care about how they might affect their development, and that's why they're scumbags. Don't come down on this guy just because he has a crush on his friend, and certainly don't try to make him feel dirty because he shares a bond with someone younger than him. Seems to me he knows the difference, so what's the deal? Now, if he went and boned her, that would be a different story, but that's not the case, so lay off. Jesus.

Anyway, in an attempt to put this thread back on course...

I get crushes all the time. A guy I know coined the term Chronic Infatuation Syndrome, or CIS for short, and I"m definately a sufferer. There's a really good friend of mine I've known for about three years now, and I've had a crush on her exactly that long. I've never acted because she never seemed that interested, and I never had the confidence for it in the first place. That's starting to change, so I don't know how our relationship might change in the future, but the outlook ain't bad.

Over the years, I've had a lot of crushes that never came to anything. It's never sexual for me, it's always their personality. I dunno, is it possible to get a crush that's predominantly sexual? How do you guys define a crush, anyway?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Naivete? Nah, I'd say I'm just a little uninformed. The topic of pedos has never held much interest for me. Perhaps you will notice that I'm not arguing the points I was proven wrong on, or any for that matter? It looked like the thread was turning into a flame-fest. I honestly don't see the point in berating the guy, when information is so much more useful. Calling a guy a pedo because he's crushin' on someone he shouldn't seems harsh to me. Perhaps he's just as uninformed as I am?

Whatever. I never heard of 'grooming' before either, and that kinda made most of my post pointless. But that was obvious before you posted, which means: You added nothing! Then again, a post in my defence adds nothing to the thread either, so I guess I'm a hypocrite!

Yay hypocracy!

There's nowhere I can't reach.