Love is friendship set on fire

i'm with Devo. Friends not being friends after dating is total shit.
So long as the 2 parties involved want to keep the friendship going afterwards, and don't try to convince themselves that things are totally changed, then there should be no problem.
Just MAKE SURE that, before you really start getting serious, she be aware that you would desire to remain friends above all, and that if you 2 getting close will cause problems with that, then you would rather break up and remain friends, than cause any possible alienation. (woah... that is a hell of a lot of clauses)
This right there however is a good way to increase the odds that the 2 of you will last longer than usual. ;-) This is because you have already broken ground for talking clearly about your relationship with her.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Delorean

Ive only really had one long-term girlfriend, and it ended good, until a while ago. We were just friends, which was hard, but it was going okay. Then i heard that she had cheated on me while we were together, and I asked her if it was true, she freaked out cause I woudlnt tell her who told me, she hit me as hard as she could, and threw my laptop against the wall. So, no friends after relationships sounds good to me.

So you base the entire manner in which you act with women on one isolated incident?:eyebrow:
Smart.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by nadienne

because either way, the friendship is already ruined.

I disagree wholeheartedly.
I have had many friendships where there has been mutual attraction, and with two of them we even dated a bit, and we still remain good friends.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.