The effect of College on Friendships

Originally Posted by sleipner

Hahah. Well all your points are valid and all but I don't want to fail at this (I'm just too asian I guess). I still have some hope left because i talked to a few of them yesterday and it seems to THEM that I was the one that seemed to want to just break everything off (a thought which blows my mind as to why they would think that when they're the ones that go off by themselves--i mean it gets kinda lonely when during the rare times we do hang out they're talking and I don't know what the hell they're talking about or they have their new inside jokes that i don't get) Sigh. I don't know. Whatever I'm just really tired now.

When I met up with old high school friends after about six months of no contact, I felt out of place at times as well. They still seemed to maintain the same level of maturity that I remembered from high school, and I suppose I changed too much to keep up with them, so to speak.

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Originally Posted by sleipner

wellllll...though I do like the closeness of high school classes, I also like the certain dignified aloofness of college.

for example, I go to rutgers and you need a bus to get anywhere on campus. I meet very interesting people on the bus. In college, I've found people to be quite friendly and open. We just start speaking about the most random things. We act liike friends, and people around us will think we are friends and once I get off the bus, we say good bye and prolly never meet ever again. No emotional connection needed.

In high school, I only talked to my close circle...and everyone was either with us...or they were "them". There were always cliques and set social lines you could not pass.

I don't know...it's just a breath of fresh air.

I've always enjoyed that about college as well. The people I've met during different semesters were polite and friendly for the most part, and I found our conversations to be interesting or very helpful. I met people who gave me advice on how to cheat certain elements in our university system (how to get classes earlier and the like).

But high school did have the usual groups of friends, and I remember that people were generally segregated and didn't associate with each other between groups. I also noticed that people I knew in high school who were previously unfriendly seemed to improve dramatically after spending a year at a university.

There's nowhere I can't reach.