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So my good friend just got engaged....she's 22. !@#$ that seems so young. What age is it appropriate to get married ?

And i know you can say that "there is no age limit as long as there is love."...well sucks to that...there is a time, i think its 28-30. anybody agree ?

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I'm probably too young to judge this, but right now I think I wouldn't want to get married until I'm like thirty-five, at least.

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I'd say that the ([26..29] men) and ([24..28] women) are adequate age intervals for marriage. Though, those numbers can wildly oscillate depending on the conditions of the couple you're talking about.

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I'd generally say that abotu 25 is the youngest someone should marry. but then I'm getting married at 22. I think it vary's a lot based on the relationship. The important thing is to make sure that the two people know eachother well and are sure it's really a good idea in the long run.

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I would want to wed between age 28-33. Maybe a random or odd age range to pick, but if I were serious of raising a family, I'd want some buffer time to build some savings for the benefit of my family. Probably getting out of college by 25-26.

Other than that, I also do not have a problem being single/alone with lady friends.

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I think that 20 should be the youngest age to get married. I know of some kids from my high school that got married right after their senior year was over.

It just depends on how well the people know each other and if they really think they will spend the rest of their lives with each other. And if they feel they are ready.
If there is nothing holding them back, like school, it should be fine.

My sister was engaged last year after only maybe 3 months or a little more of knowing this guy and was going to drop of of the university she was attending. She decided to break up with him. She is 20.

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(I am prob too young to share a good opinion)I would have to say around 25~28 for women. And for men 26~32.

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It depends on the relationship, I think. Sure, getting married at 22 might seem a little soon, but if they've been together for a while, its a logical step for them. As long as they can see a future in it, and are going ahead with it for the right reasons!

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Man. This is a tough question to give a definite answer on.

It really does depend on the people getting married and exactly how stable they are. Also, the REASONS they're getting married, and how mature they are.

Personally, I have no real limit. I know if a man were to say to me tomorrow or in 5 years "Will you marry me," and MEAN it, I would probably freak out, decline, and break up. I know I don't want to be married at all, only because I feel it ruins a relationship in a way.

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Youngest should be about 22. Latest should be about 29.

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Originally Posted by Blackbord

Youngest should be about 22. Latest should be about 29.

How can there be a latest time to get married?
There are people who get divorced and then get married again who are older than 29.

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Originally Posted by Blackbord

Youngest should be about 22. Latest should be about 29.

So, like, I guess you don't believe in second marriages after the age of 29?

Or maybe you think that peoples' minds and emotions expire at 29?

I'd love to know why you're putting an "oldest age" mark on marriage. Could you explain this one, please?

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I think that early 30s should be the earlierest a person should get married. I base that on my own life. I was waaaay too young when I got married (19) and ended up divorced at 24. There was no time to have fun, explore, and just be myself. I didn't go anywhere or do anything because I thought I was sooooo in love.

I think people should accomplish most of what they want in life before they go getting married. I think things would go better that way.

I was speaking idiomatically.

it got my head going "WTF!?" when my classmates (yes more than one) got engaged in their last year of highschool or so. One of them was getting married the fall following their high school graduation and the other got a formal engagement right after high school grad - yeah they're both 18 and here I stand very purplexed @___@

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

LOL i was just having this same discussion with my friend!

Nearly all her friends are engaged, and a couple of them are married already.
She's 19.
I'm 20, and none of my friends are engaged or married, but I do have a friend of a friend who just got married a couple of weeks ago.
She told me that they got married because....*dum dum dum* her friend got knocked up. Either way, it was a very 'romantic, fancy' wedding, according to her.
What scares me is that both of them now talk to me about weddings and how romantic they are and what they want their dream weddings to be like and im just "wtf o___O" *runs away*

There needs to be a sense of maturity when you get married and/or decide to have kids. Some people just aren't ready for that responsibility.
I know I'm not. I don't have a steady income or any real direction in my life at the moment, so I definitely can't support myself, let alone a wife and/or kids.

Personally, I think 25 is a good age to get married at.

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Originally Posted by brknredcrayon

What age is it appropriate to get married ?

There is no good age to get married. Marriage sucks and should not even exist anymore. Break them up; they'll be happier for it in the long run.

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Originally Posted by Eleo

There is no good age to get married. Marriage sucks and should not even exist anymore. Break them up; they'll be happier for it in the long run.

While I agree with you, I think that people should learn the hard way.

Through extremely expensive and painful divorces.

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I work with a married 23-year-old; I have an engaged 20-year-old friend (he's engaged to a 17-year-old), an engaged 21-year-old friend, a married 20-year old friend (he's married to an 18-year-old), and an engaged 17-year-old friend. They're all horrible reminders that I've never had a girlfriend. Luckee, you think you were thinking "WTF!?" Imagine half of your friends suddenly getting engaged or married.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

It really does depend on the people getting married and exactly how stable they are. Also, the REASONS they're getting married, and how mature they are.

Exactly how I feel.

Age has nothing to do with marriage. However, the maturity level of both parties and that of their relationship have everything to do with marriage. Age and maturity (of both people and relationships) grow over time, but not at the same rate. While age's growth is constant, maturity's growth is sporadic and varies very much between people and relationships. If both people are mature and ready for marriage, and their relationship is ready to be taken to the next level, then I think marriage is a wonderful idea.

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Some people, especially those (but not limited to) those who are younger than 21 use marriage as a way to make people think that they're more mature than the rest of their peers.
Really, to these people, what other way is there to show that you are 'soooooooooooo in love'?

My friend (21) is sooooooooo in love with his girlfriend (16), and I reckon he's gonna want to marry her as soon as she gets outta school.
Just a hunch.
Hell, they already DO think of marriage.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by uematsufreak

Age has nothing to do with marriage. However, the maturity level of both parties and that of their relationship have everything to do with marriage. Age and maturity (of both people and relationships) grow over time, but not at the same rate. While age's growth is constant, maturity's growth is sporadic and varies very much between people and relationships. If both people are mature and ready for marriage, and their relationship is ready to be taken to the next level, then I think marriage is a wonderful idea.

I agree. I am 20 and have no real aspirations to get hitched until i am at least in my late 20's early 30's. What is even stranger is that my good friends say that they think i will def. be the last person to get married out of the group if at all. I have had girlfriends and relationships...but they say i sometimes seem detached from everything. o well i'll just go fishin' :fishing:

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I don't know about an exact age...I got married at 23...But I will say, make sure it's really the person you want to spend your life with. Don't rush.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Most people I know in RL that are married got married in their early to mid-20s. But regardless of the age, I agree with the others that it depends on the people. Certainly tying the knot, at least in my mind, means more than just the two of you loving each other. There's a lot of preparation that should go into a marriage -- financially, mentally, emotionally and for those inclined, even spiritually -- for it to be successful and satisfying.

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Not everyone between the ages of 28-30 are even remotely ready to get married. It totally depends on the couple. You can't stick two 18 year olds together and possibly think they have the same maturity level.

Most people will probably say mid 20s because that's when you're out of college, starting a new job and probably getting ready to settle down. What if people don't want to do it in that order? Some women want kids right away. Biologically, women are the most fertile in their early 20s so some people choose to get married and have kids at a young age. Nothing wrong with that as long as they are READY. That's the key there, you can't just be like, "oh I'm 30 now, I better get married" it doesn't work that way.

I didn't think I'd get married until I was in my 30s, well funny that I got engaged at 20 and I was married by 21. Six years later, I have a good job, 2 houses, 3 cars, a dog and now I've decided to go back to school full time and finish up my degree to pursue something that I'll enjoy vs a paycheck. Maybe afterwards I'll feel ready enough to have kids (doubt it) but I didn't follow the order, but I think I turned out just fine.

It's totally not about age, it's about what stage you are in life and timing.

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I haven't dated much (actually never)...so I guess I might have to wait a tad longer?

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Marriage at any age (legal age for wherever you are, that is) seems alright, just so as long as you don't interpret a marriage license as a breeding license. Getting married young seems to mean a higher likely hood or divorce or discontent, and bringing kids into that is a mess.

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