So I Have a Roomate Rift.

Yeah, just last thursday, one of my roomates lost it for a moment and nearly strangled another roomate. This happened after said other roomate deleted a Super Smash Bros. Melee save because our first guy was acting like a douche (I wasn't there. It was also extra funny when the victim came back to see that I earned everything back in SSBM over the weekend. Everyone claimed I had no life. )

Now this strangler is not a violent guy at all... as a matter of fact even though he's somewhat selfish and highly naive, he's actually fairly nice. Now the victim, my other roomate and one I'm closer friends with, called the police and issued a restraining order, so now our "threatening" roomate is getting booted out. Our victim also takes medicine for emotional stability, so I'm kinda worried on how this is affecting him.

I'm friends with both of them, and I've tried to mediate the process. The stress has taken a hidden toll on me and I'm not liking it. There still may be time to mend their friendship, but it looks like the kicking out is inevitable.

...what should I do?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

...Wow. All I can say is wow.
Okay so that's not ALL I can say.
First of all, what are you doing rooming with someone who takes medicine for emotional stability? Even if he's the victim...
Secondly, if they were good friends, a little strangling never killed a GOOD friendship. However if they weren't all that great of friends, neither of them will forgive each other, and eventually one will shoot the other in the head.

In all seriousness... it's not up to you to mend their friendship. You can be the message boy and deliver only positive good messages, which can help, but it's really up to them. Just try to relax, and I'd suggest getting another roommate ASAP so rent doesn't stress you either.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

More or less medicine is for stress, since his body can't get rid of it properly. He's not bipolar. I worded that shit wrong.

...rent? Last time I checked, I've had a fourth roomate abandon the room before and I never got an increase in rent.

But yeah, most other people have told me not to stress out about it and go my own path, but unfortunately I'm still a worrywart/dumbass.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Ah. I was mostly kidding anyway.

I wasn't talking about an increase in rent, just that everyone would have to make up for the absence of that person not paying their portion of the rent. However if you pay rent per-room (which would be a GREAT set up, I think, and have yet to find one around here) then completely disregard everything I just said and forget I ever said it, mmkay?

It's difficult not to stress about, uh... stressful stuff. Uhm. But I think if you focus on helping rather than worrying about how to help (subtle difference) it could... well... help.
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I pretty much am the message boy. But thanks anyway.

I figure the only thing I really can do is pass news and hope for the best. I'm not angsting too much anymore.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Well, they will have to settle their differences. You can only do some much, and sometimes that won't even make a difference. I find it very hard for third parties to try and mend other friends.

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Originally Posted by Ayos

First of all, what are you doing rooming with someone who takes medicine for emotional stability? Even if he's the victim...

Wait up. So what are you saying, people who need help coping with their emotions don't deserve room-mates? That's the terrible kind of attitude that pushes people over the edge and brings them to that state. If everyone treated everyone else like human beings, maybe we wouldn't have the kind of problems that required medication. If one's a risk to people around him, then he simply shouldn't be out and about, he should be getting help from professionals. Otherwise, there's absolutely no reason why you should feel that way.

Ayos, I really do hope you start to see things differently at some point.

Other than that, I agree - all you can do is fill in both parties on all the information that they need to make their decisions about where to go from there. No more, no less.

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:eyebrow: Um. Did I say he doesn't deserve a roommate? I'm just wondering what would make him want to room with someone who is unstable. I would similarly ask someone what they're doing with an unstable girlfriend, if they had one. It's not that they shouldn't treat them like any other human being. I was asking a question out of curiosity. And joking, to boot (note how I followed it all up with "In all seriousness..." and "I was mostly kidding anyway.") Chill.

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