Is she going out with somebody...?

Ever been to a party or some other social gathering, and you meet a nice girl. You think you could get interested in her, and you find yourself somewhat enthralled? But you find yourself holding back for some reason. My reason is always because I don't want to get attached until I know whether or not she is available. But I don't like to just come right out and ask. That would make things awkward. So then how do you find out?

Well I have my own method that usually works pretty well. I try to steer the conversation in a direction where she might just end up revealing that she has a significant other. I do this by simply asking lots of questions about what she likes to do, who she was at the party with. I ask about hobbies, frequented locations, work. Anything where she might discuss who she does this stuff with. I've never had it fail before. Sadly, the girl has always been involved with someone else as well .

So how about you GFF. What are your thoughts on this? Got any sure fire methods? What about in different situations, for example, a girl you see all the time, but you don't wanna waste your time approaching her if she's involved with someone else? How would you go about finding that information out?

Oh. Also, girls feel free to offer up your opinions from the other side of things. How do you find out if the guy has a girl or not?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Next time you're at an event, why not just ask something like "So why didn't you decide to bring your boyfriend along?" or something like that.

If she actually gives a reason, well, there you go. If she says "no, I don't have one, what made you think so?", you're on your way to a nice conversation right there haha :P.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

When I see hot guys, I look for wedding bands. It's depressing how many people actually wear them. Also, if their office has crayon scribblings on paper, they probably had sex with a chick.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I've noticed that people in relationships will always bring up the fact that they're with someone. Whether it's a name, or the title of "my boyfriend/girlfriend", the chances are they're gonna mention it. It sounds really lame, but being a University student I tend to find a lot of guys on facebook and that's how I figure it out >_>. Other than that, just talking to them and then flat out asking once it's gone past the awkward introductory stage.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

When I approach a girl, I make it pretty obvious I mean business. I mean, pleasure, not business, but yeah you get the point! Anyway! So if they're taken or otherwise not interested, that is the time to tell me, so we can move on and have the minimum amount of mutual awkwardness. (Which is slightly different from mutant awkwardness.)

But in general I will assume everyone is single until told otherwise. It's just a good attitude to have, can't be half-assing it when you try to get laid. If you're super careful, it's just a turnoff. Hell, they might even make up a boyfriend just to get you off their backs, I've actually been the surrogate boyfriend for girls who got annoyed with a guy hitting on them, so I know it's not beyond the fair female mind or anything like that. It doesn't just happen in the movies. And, I'm quite sure guys do the same thing too! Though I don't know if we're as sensitive as that...

And if they continue to flirt with me even though they are seeing someone else (or don't tell me at all), I don't feel all that responsible for any consequences it might have.

Also, I agree with Sian that people who are in relationships namedrop their boyfriends pretty much all the time. Basically, I just don't worry about it too much, I guess.

I was speaking idiomatically.

From my experience, even classmates I only knew for a short period of time tended to mention their significant others quite often. On the other hand, I'm not one to share things about myself easily. So whenever someone happened to approach me with clear intentions, they were almost always direct and simply asked if I was in a relationship.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Pyromanic

Well I have my own method that usually works pretty well. I try to steer the conversation in a direction where she might just end up revealing that she has a significant other. I do this by simply asking lots of questions about what she likes to do, who she was at the party with. I ask about hobbies, frequented locations, work. Anything where she might discuss who she does this stuff with. I've never had it fail before. Sadly, the girl has always been involved with someone else as well . But I don't like to just come right out and ask. That would make things awkward. So then how do you find out?

You know, this may sound harsh, but I'm willing to bet at least one of those girls was lying through her teeth. As smooth as you may think you are, I garuntee most of these ladies know exactly what information you're fishing for. I do what you call awkward: I ask. If you can't figure out a way to ask a girl straight whether or not she's seeing someone without being a slimeball, you've got more problems than we can help you with.

Also, Avalo is so right, I totally give my honey-bunny crayon scribblings after coitus. It's usually a drawing of that bitch making my a sandwich or Manhattan.

FELIPE NO

Oh probably. In the end I still get the information I'm hoping for, she's either involved with someone or not interested in me. I just feel, well no awkward, but rude just asking straight out. Probably something I should get over, but right now I'm not at the point in my life where I'm looking for anything anyhow. Gotta get my life straightened out. lol.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?