How To Deal OR Get Over Yourself And Stop Listening To Emo Post-Cure Robert Smith

So, how do YOU get over someone? I find myself able to shake of most people - be it friends or exes - by just breaking down the relationship logically and see what the problems were and leave it at that.

However, some of these people I cannot seem to root out and its a part of my life that needs to be over with already.

Anyone have any trademark or textbook fashions to get over this?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I have no content, I just liked your second title there.

Okay, maybe I do. Perhaps your subconscious is not done chewing over this person yet. Don't know how you can rush your subconscious though.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Devo

Do something that really pisses them off?

Either that or avoid them =\.

I'm talking about them "Getting out of my head". To stop thinking about them and such.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

An old trick I did in high school (and to a lesser extent still do in college) when it came to girls is find some other girl to become attracted to and just think about her. Then, when you realize that this other girl isn't all she's cracked up to be (because she usually isn't), you clear your mind of her and you go back to square one.

Usually I can get people out of my head and stop meddling pretty quickly. It really depends on how important the person was.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

If you don't want to think about one thing, occupy your mind with something else. Whether it is immersing yourself in your work, studies {wouldn't work for me, but that doesn't mean it couldn't work for some people}, or a hobby or two. A mindless sports game, fighting game, or shooting game work pretty well for me, as do thought provoking films or television shows.

These are of course short term solutions. For long term solutions {as in your relationship with this person ended a year ago and you cannot move on}, then your best solution would be to consult with either a professional OR a psych student who is in a Phd program.

Or you could have sex with everyone in her life she holds dear. Best friend, sisters, mom, step-mom, new boyfriend, new boyfriend's sister, mom, step-mom. We all know that's what you want to do anyways.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Get a barbed chain and tight it around your upper thigh, then tighten it whenever you think of her. Or whip yourself in the back. Purify yourself from her existance.

How ya doing, buddy?

I am probably the anti-expert of getting over someone. I am still deeply mourning over my ex-boyfriend, whom I broke up with almost two years ago.

Counseling helped some. Liking other boys--MAKING myself like them, practically--was an excellent fix for a little while. Unfortunately, the old feelings came right back once I stopped liking them.

What I hate hate HATE to say is that time is what it seems to be taking. In the mean time, I avoid seeing him at all costs, and I am currently trying to reconstruct myself, personality and all. I cannot even begin to tell you the changes this upheavel has wrought.

I thought I'd have more answers by now, but I don't. Distracting yourself is probably the best you can do in the short-term.

FELIPE NO

Well I'm not sure I know how to get over anyone because the fact of the matter is I have never really had to. But I guess I would go about it by listening to music. Not so much of the emo kind although I know some of my friends would say it is; but more of the rock to heavy rock types.

The ones that basically have the message of you're you and that's all the matters. You'll find your own way soon enough

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Face myself. That's what I do, when my best best friend betrayed me, the only thing I thought was to get her out of my head.

But every time I declined her thoughts in my head, the picture lasted longer, the debris of her memoirs felt stronger and even bigger. Denial didn't work and distracting myself only worked for awhile, while my friendship with her had lasted 8 years long.

So the best way for me is to be patient with myself. I forgave her, and did not forbid myself from thinking anything related to her, but also, I planted down that I and She are no longer best friends. Whatever she did, I knew and I let it go.
Later, her piece gets smaller in my mind... and I'm used to it...

This probably is harder than it sounds... and it already sounds complicated. But it's really easy thou takes time, try to accept yourself without the present being of that someone that had gone... It works best than everything else...

Jam it back in, in the dark.