Making Friends

It's not that I can't make friends, it's just that I make them in my classes and by the end of the semester that's it. Never an exchange of phone numbers or email addresses to keep in tough. I'm shy... but I do start the semester off by getting to know people in my classes. I guess I just make acquaintences. I came to fine the past few months I only have one true friend (by this I mean people here, not my friends that are elsewhere and I never see) but goes to college in another city. So, what is the secret to making true friends?

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there's no secret because there is no such thing as a true friend. I would know. Backstabbing bastards.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

You just have to overcome that shy tendancy of yours and go for it. Just get in there, and try to be as honest as you can. If they don't like you, there's always others. Easier said than done though.
After you meet some people, spend lots of time with them, so your friendship bonds even more. If you just meet and never hang with them, how do you expect the relationship to go beyond just acquaintences?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Clubs always work. Find a club you're interested in on campus, and the people there would usually be cool. Do you work in groups for any of your classes? Find someone you like and be a study buddy (not that kind of study buddy! Silly!).

Also, as stalkerish as it sounds, try facebook. Once you 'friend' a person on facebook, chances are their screen name is right there, so talk to them online. (Or ask them for it, screen names are easier to ask for than phone numbers, from my experience.) Use the excuse of class assignments or something to just get talking. You need to talk with them to get to know them, and vice versa.

But like Yamamanama said, the college has to have a Student Center of some sort. If you commute to school, its a great place to see and meet people.

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Once you get to know a person, such as class in the beginning of the semester, hang with them more. If you live off campus, then arrange something where you can just chill, like go to someone's apartment or dorm and play a video game. If that is a little hard to manage, then arrange some sort of study relationship then branch off from there, like after you finish or get bored of studying just relax and talk to the other person. It might sound like it takes a lot of effort but it's really easy to make friends in college.

After a semester when you no longer see the person, it might be a little harder to maintain the relationship because you don't share the same class, but before that happens just exchange phone numbers. Initiate calls sometimes and if they're good friends they will call you, too.

Also, clubs are great places to maintain a longer than a semester friendship. You usually will get to see the same people weekly throughout your college life, so that's a great place to start as well.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Other than school, I actually met alot of friends at work, but I guess that'd depends on what kind of job you work as. :P Also good friends takes time to build, you can't expect someone to be your true friend the next day if you just met him/her a day ago.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

If you're coming across as kinda desperate for company, that might inspire any potential 'friendees' to find you a little unpalatable. Everyone loves zen, so relax into yourself good and proper.

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Being out-going and approachable is a great way for making new friends. If you are shy and show it badly, people tend to ignore you. Its kind of the worst part about being shy. Just make sure you are cool about it and make sure that you show some sort of confidence, whether it is a guy, or a girl.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

It is great help to find a person you can identify with. All my friends are musicians or people from home.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Choose carefully. My friend count is 3. These are tight long lasting relationships fused together with the fires of lifes testing.
I look at life like its a RPG. You always start off alone on some quest, pick up pals and lose them on the way but you always stick to the quest. Make your quest the priority and then your real friends will show up.
Be yourself, rely on your stregnths and in time those that complement them will reveal themselves. In time taking care of your friends becomes apart of your quests and whatever you invest is returned with interest.

Beware of reacting to emotional pressures, temper it with your long term goals and future considerations.

How ya doing, buddy?

If someone isn't willing to keep up communication with you then chances are you're not going to make a good friend. In my experience a good friendship is rare and lasts only when both sides are willing to make an effort, even if you are shy. I'm incredibly shy but I have 2 very close friends, because it's not just me making the effort.

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Originally Posted by LordsSword

Choose carefully. My friend count is 3. These are tight long lasting relationships fused together with the fires of lifes testing.
I look at life like its a RPG. You always start off alone on some quest, pick up pals and lose them on the way but you always stick to the quest. Make your quest the priority and then your real friends will show up.
Be yourself, rely on your stregnths and in time those that complement them will reveal themselves. In time taking care of your friends becomes apart of your quests and whatever you invest is returned with interest.

Beware of reacting to emotional pressures, temper it with your long term goals and future considerations.

That's freaky and just a mite bit sociopathic, but the analogy is solid. STICK TO THE QUEST, Dark Chocolate! The QUEST!

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

ask to do something outside of class with them, invite them to see a movie with you or somethin

I was speaking idiomatically.

I'm the same way. I meet people in classes then tend to never see them again afterwards. My roommate is my only really good friend at my college.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by tiki

That's freaky and just a mite bit sociopathic, but the analogy is solid. STICK TO THE QUEST, Dark Chocolate! The QUEST!

I think the answer is over at GameFAQs!

The best friends I made in my life were through introductions, except one. Unfortunately, their parents had made them move away, so I lost them. I'm sure for 99% of everyone, school is the best way to meet new friends. Be open, be yourself and find people who have the same interests as you. It gives you something to discuss.

FELIPE NO

I have always been outgoing so i never found it hard to meet new people but a true friends is hard to find, i rememebr telling someone that they were my best friend but she turned to me and said "You have enough best friends im your close friend" and I realised that I truly did have too many people that superficially called me their "best friend" but there are only about 3 people that i would confide in and that I can just turn up to their place and never feel uninvited. I met my close frineds all through school, sometimes you just connect with someone and you feel comfortable around them. But if you are just looking for some people to hang out with then everything that has been suggested sounds fine and maybye one of those people will be someone that you can have that close friendship with. Also hanging out in groups is good too if you feel awkward or shy cause then its easier for a conversation to flow especially if you dont know someone that well. And yeah online chat is good cause its kinda impersonal, so you can get to know someone but still keep a comfotable distance. I hope you have more some more confidence in yourself cause eveyone deserves to have some pals.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

clubs, a student loft in center, what have you. My college has a nice loft in center with an arcade. I played tekken D.R. all the time cause that game is practically my life lol. Anyway, I met a couple of guys who like tekken also so now i'm cool with them. Now I just need to find a girl who loves tekken as much as I do hahahahaaa. My point is think of something you like to do or somewhere you like to hang out your not the only one. If you have the time I recomend a club.

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