Pity Party

Ok, so I have an issue with a friend of mine.

In recent months she has been insatiably offensive to me. Now, this hasn't always been that way in our friendship, so its not like I'm putting myself into this position. Nor is she always this way. However, when she is, I call her out on it, and criticize her for doing that.

Now apparently, a recent event where she insulted me, and acted like a conceited bitch on top of that, was the straw that broke the camel's proverbial back, and she just bitches to me about how "all [she] ever do[es] is wrong," and that we shouldn't be friends. Now this, of course, is not true, although in recent weeks I have been increasingly critical, in response to her increasing abrasiveness.
However, if I tell her that she is wrong in saying that, it will further support her delusion that all she ever does is wrong.
And I can't just NOT call her out on these sorts of things.
On top of that, despite her recent attitude, I still would like to be friends with her, since she still can be enjoyable company, and just in general I care about her. Also, if you exclude me, she really only has one other friend who she keeps any bit of ongoing contact with(though how long that will really last, I can't say). I don't think it would benefit her for me to just say "Ok, friendship over, bye bye," and leave it at that.
It looks to me like she doesn't want to own up to her faults, and just runs away from conflicts, rather than learning from them at all.

I want to give her some Frank Barone advice and say "Quit blubbering you baby, and just do better next time!" However, I wonder if that would be at all helpful.

I'm in a bind Gamingforce!

Jam it back in, in the dark.

People don't want friends so much as they want lapdogs. Friends tell friends painful truths and honest anwsers instead of simply placating them with meaningless responses.

I suggest telling her to shit in her hat, that you were the friend she'll never deserve and then push her into a lake or something.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

It seems that much of why you stay with your friend is because of pity. But pity isn't good at all, especially when I feel it's the only thing she has ever tasted (being the emo that she is).

You can stay friends with her, based on her good characteristics and what you like about her, but avoid treating her with pity. It's like a drug, not recommended.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

It's really, really difficult to be in any sort of relationship with a person who refuses to see their own faults. It's even more difficult to maintain a relationship with a person who doesn't appreciate honesty. Unfortunately, experience has taught me that people are who they are by the time they're 20 or so. Good luck changing her...it probably isn't going to happen.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

First move I'd suggest would be to take some space. Don't see or talk to each other for a while. And by "while" I don't mean just a day or two.

If she still can't deal with your honesty after you've taken some space, write her a letter explaining in very simple, honest, positive terms, that you are breaking off your friendship with her, and why. Letters and notes may seem like a very junior-high-school thing to do, but honestly, they usually work best in these kinds of situations. You can take the time to think about what you want to say, then revise over the next few days as you try to read it with her mindset.

You aren't going to change her, Alice is right. People don't change other people. But you might influence some change. Who knows?

I was speaking idiomatically.