ex new bf cheating on ex
 

long story short, my ex, whom i loved dearly, is dating someone who is cheating on her for certain. i haven't talked to her in almost 4 months... do i just stand by and watch? or try to help her...

It depends on how you guys parted ways. Was is amicable or was there a huge fight? That will dictate if/when you should do her the favour of telling her about her new boyfriend, or if she deserves to have this happen to her. She might think you're just making things up because you're jealous that she has moved on, for example.

Depends. What are your motives?

If deep down you really just want to get in her pants again, forget it. On the other hand, if you genuinely feel concerned for her as a friend and think she should know, then go ahead. Be advised she might question your motives as well, though. Not to mention the other guy had better not find out she heard it from you...

How old is she? Is this just a high-school drama we're talking about, here? I'd just let it play out, if it is.

If that's not really your deal, than... I wouldn't go to her. If you make a point of talking to her without him nearby, you immediately fall under suspicion. On the other hand, if this guy's clearly cheating on her, than he's an asshole and needs to be dealt with. Call him out. In public. Make sure friends are around and make sure you can back your claim up.

Don't worry about if she can see you or not; she'll find out.

Fuck that shit.

If the bitch is old enough to grow tits and date, she's old enough to make the decision to date some shitty asshole who cheats.

Don't get involved. All it'll do is drag you down with her.

*No one* ever deserves to be cheated on, and the fact that you are concerned about her now means that you realize this. If you're absolutely, 100% certain this is happening (and you're also certain she doesn't know already), then you should tell her. It would help to provide at least some piece of evidence, even if it's just telling her something you saw. Something she won't be able to instantly refute.

No matter what though, don't press the issue. If she doesn't believe you, don't keep on her about it. You've told her, you did your part, and she'll be looking to see the signs whether she wants to or not. But since this will irrevocably alter her relationship with this dude, again, you need certainty.

You clearly care what happens to her, so I don't think you should let this just go by. If you're concerned about it being awkward for you to be the one, perhaps you can have someone else close to you and her do it for you without ever referencing you. If you can't be comfortable with that and really want to be the one telling her, then it's possible you may have subconscious ulterior motives. That shouldn't disqualify you from trying this, but be aware of it.

What you need to do is fuck the girl who's your ex girlfriends boyfriend is cheating with. This will make the whole situation confusing and funny. Remember, if you can find a way to make life funny you should always take it.

keep in mind that if you tell her, you run the risk of her thinking that you're just trying to get her back and that might ruin whatever you have now.

also I think RAB's got quite the plan for success. DO IT.

i think im gonna keep it a secret. cuz she dumped me for my best friend so she deserves to go fuck herself .. haha

Help her. If she is your friend, I am sure you are unwilling to see her hurt. Men that cheat really lack testicles, really.

If anything, men that cheat have TOO MUCH in the way of testicles

WAY TO THINK LIKE A MARINE, SON.

If you ever do decide to break the news to her, be sure to have concrete proof. Photos are good. Otherwise, she'll probably think you're jealous, and ignore what you have to say. She wouldn't do that because she really thinks you would be jealous, but it's better than facing the truth.

God knows, as a species, our greatest talent is deluding ourselves.

It's the best when they think you are jealous, because when they do find out and it crashes and burns, you are the one standing laughing in all your glory.

I can say it's nice to think she'll listen, but because of whom YOU are, she'll probably think it's just you still harping on her and hell, she cheated on you, so to some extent she's a creep, she'll tell her current bf and he'll completely deny it and he'll say YOU are just trying to get her back.

Unfortunately, in a situation like this, I would step out of it.

Hahahahah. I have to say that's the best advice I've heard all week :biggrin:

Sure they do. In many cases, it's karma at work.

Case in point!

So is it your best friend who's the cheating bastard, or is your ex-girlfriend a ho? Because if she dumped you for your friend, and 4 months later she's with another guy, she deserves everything she's got coming to her.

If you do decide to let her know, maybe you could get someone else who knows her to tell her. That way she won't think you're doing it to mess up her relationship.

On the other hand, as she was such a bitch to you... I'd just leave them to work it out for themselves.