What should I do?
 

Ok, this is long.. so yeah.

Last year in November I called my friend Taylor again, someone I had known since we were weee lil children. We hadn't talked in about a year since the break we had, which resulted very badly( I was a complete asshole) Well I felt like calling her this day because it was not to long after her Bday and wanted to wish her a happy one. We started talking alot again.. and I started developing feelings again. She said she was too. My birthday came around and she gave me quite the birthday presnt*wink* which was.. well yeah. Then it was Christmas break and she started sneaking out everynight to hangout with me. So after about a week of this we were back together again. We were doing great, aboslutely wonderful. Then, in February on the 14th I gave her a Vday gift of course and she seemed really upset as if something was really bothering her.. I had no idea what was up and the next day she brokeup with me. She told me the day before she loved me and then she broke up with me saying "I never had any feelings for you.. I was just wishing I would but they never came.... I mean didn't I tell you I'd never have feelings for you again.", I said "Well, yeah you did.. but if you never did then why did you let all this happen again... you've bassically been lying to me for the past few months", she says " No... I wasn't lying" , "Well you're lying now then", "No", "Then this makes no sense". Well, probably a week or so after that she is with my best friend. It really pissed me off. Then her Bestfriend calls me up wanting me to hang out with me (we aren't to gether and we won't be, just friends) well Taylor calls me and tells me how much she hates the fact that her friend and I are hanging out, I told her it's no different than her and my best friend except i'm not dating hers but she seems to think it's no the same.. that she was right in what she did but i'm not right in what i'm doing. So now.. we don't talk anymore, and I still have feelings for her. As soon as I think i'm ok with everythign and i'm gonna get over it all.. she calls me again.. or something happens to remind me of her. I'm so fucking confused. I just wanna tell her to fuck off and go to hell for all the shit she caused and then at the same time make it all work out again. Any suggestions?

Chicks make no sense, mate. You're lucky if they stick to mere double standards.

Your best bet is to ignore her and carry on seeing her mate. You're best off out of a relationship with anyone that capricious ad you'll probably find that she soon tires of your mate anyway.

Move on, don't let her dictate who you see, smile whenever you see her. That really pisses people off when they think they've upset you...

Hmm.. alright.. sounds good. Thanks.

How old are you? If you're fairly young - which I expect you may be - forget about it. Feelings grow cold after time, and it sounds like you'd be better off without her.

Some women have the attention span of gnats, and they'll deny it to the bloody end. Men suffer the same thing, but they're usually a lot more transparent about it. Women will con their way out because they're chickenshits.

Just remember the good times you had, the fun shit you got out of her, and continue on the search. Its not the end of the world. Keep your chin up.

That's one messed up situation you got there, mack. Being a girl myself and hearing all these damn horror stories of girls gone wonky in the head and having to resort to doing that stuff is a little weird. I mean, I am rather straightforward with my motives and stuff just so that everything is clear and there are no complications such as the one that you have. Her lying like that is cowardly and stupid. I say just cut her out of your life. She makes you bend over backwards for her only to have her turn around and say she doesn't want what you can provide? That's BS. You don't need people like that messing with your head.

Echoing the sentiments of Sassafrass at the end of her entry as well.

TC

Do what you think you must. Sometimes we just have to think of ourselves first then others. Leave her! Just go on with her best friend.

damn, she really screwed things up...but if i were you, i'd just let it be and move on...
plenty of fish in the sea, there's no reason to stop fishing if one of them won't bite. ^_~

Permission to be an asshole granted! Do yourself a favour and tell her to fuck off. That's what you REALLY want to do, isn't it?

Indeed I do. And I did. here's what's really getting to me.. i'm basically removed her from my life (i'm still hanging out with her best friend though.. kinda starting to like her too) but she(my ex) will instant message me if i'm on AIM or call me and be like ""Why can't I get ahold of Kris!?!?!" and try to bitch at me because she can't get ahold of him... so i stopped answering the phone.. and this bitch shows up at my house at 3 AM comes in my back door and I wake up and she's next to me in my bed crying... :edgartpg:
WTF?!?

okay I'm sorry if this sounds mean but:
a) block her from your IM. not that hard to do.
b) block her from your phone: call the phone company and make sure that her number cannot reach you and reaches some random warehouse place.
c) LOCK YOU'RE BACK DOOR... did you give her the spare keys to your house?? change the locks if so! Or if your back door has no lock then INSTALL one. omg... this girl is like --- just CREEPY. *shakes head*

Can't believe people would go to such lengths...

what a creep...

i agree with pez...

tell her to FUCK OFF and lock your back door and your room door, install metal bars on all windows, adopt an attack dog, get laser censor security beams, and heat censor floors, set up small explosive mines all around your house, and dig a really deep hole and cover it with leaves and hope she falls into in.

Ah, undeniable proof that acting like a ‘jerk’ gets the girl. I suppose if you start behaving caring, sensitive and attentive to her needs, she’ll get repulsed again...

Actually, the way I see it is you’re in a position of power and can really do anything you want right now. Use your imagination :)

Um...that's so fucking creepy.

Why do you keep your backdoor unlocked/why does she have a key to your house?



Well, you got two options.

1) Remove her from your life (entirely or partially, up to you)

or

2) Sit her down and talk to her - and neither of you can leave until most (if not everything) is straightened out in some manner.


If she refuses to do #2, then do #1.