She is the one
 

Let's hear your methods.

What in the hell are SMS and MMS? Makes me feel old.

Direct approach, calling or talking face to face is best. Everyone likes to know these things up front. Whenever someone has taken interest in me, I've always been impressed if they have the courage to be up front about it.

You cannot send a SMS because SMS is the abbreviation for the system; if you're talking about sending a short message, you'd have to write "SM", as in, "I am sending a SM", okay?!

The direct approach is best. It shows confidence in yourself to be able to walk up and initiate a conversation like that.

However, you might want to be careful about using phrases like "she's the one" if you've never even been out with this girl.

Asking a girl out with a text message or an email is a one way ticket to lonely-town.

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Be straight up and direct. Unless you would like to risk that she is into aloof people, or is really friendly towards people in general.

I was under the impression that when a guy says "she is the one," he's going to propose to her. Not just ask her to "go out with him" in like, a middle school 3 week romance.

Eitherway, just TALK to her. Be casual. Make her your friend before you make her your girlfriend. You need to be able to talk to a person before you can date a person.

You've left out a ton of methods there. How about letting them do the asking? Or figuring out by yourself if she might be interested, without actually asking her or anyone else? Or just telling yourself she probably isn't interested and moving on? Think of us cowards, please.

I've done the e-mail thing once. ICQ, actually. Ended up working out, against all odds (although I had to wait for about seven months for her to finally realize she shared the sentiment). I don't recommend it, at any rate.

An SMMS works best.

lols You ask a friend to see if she's interested? What is this 8th grade?

Seriously though, what worsk real good is to somehow put yourself into a situation with her where conversation might start naturally.

This one time we where pressed up against each other on a crowded bus. I made a comment and by luck she laughed instead of getting insulted and the rest is history however short that history was. >__>

Eh I use the "ask her if she's interested" method. God knows how long it's been since I've last done it though. There is all of that uber anxiety that comes with it, but hey for some if they're interested..they are dying for you to ask them.

Like Sass I too thought this was a thread about proposing to a loved one. Apparently, it's a bit more juvenile than that.

I honestly agree with most everyone here who says "just go talk to her." However, I think it's idiotic to just go up to a girl and ask her out in effort to find out whether she's interested depending on her answer. You should know whether or not the girl is interested BEFORE you try any of the suggested methods. There isn't any way of knowing beyond talking to her face to face.

To humor the thread with a vote, I'd choose to call her and ask her on a date. My logic behind this is that I would have to personally approach her to get her phone number anyway, and she wouldn't give me her number unless she expressed some sort of return interest.

I texted her with a funny message and she replied :)
I think I'm gonna wait a little bit before I ask her out.

I think this thread would suck less if it asked females the inverse. Any guy with a spine is just going to talk to the girl and communicate this some way or another. Females on the other hand are far more likely to flake out and do all kinds of way more interesting-to-talk-about but stupid shit.

Since I'm still a shy guy, I do the call method. You're cheating by not being in person, and yet it's live voice, which is still personal. If she's interested though it sucks becuase you're on a phone and you can't get down right then and there. If rejected, then you're safe.

It also depends on the girl's personality. If she's the type to think about it, then you probably e-mail her or better text to see her actual reply.
You could also write a letter or a note so it'd have a more personal touch.
The phone call I guess I'd prefer a bit, since that'd save me from being red-faced and fumbling over myself.
But I suppose the best way is to be direct, since it allows them to gauge how interested you are, sincerity, or whatever they need to know. Plus you get to see how she instantly reacts. If she feels awkard then you could break away immediately.

SMS is cheap, MMS is more expensive, pull out the cash damnit!

In all seriousness, i'd either do it in person or send someone in beforehand to find out.

Where's option 7? Oh here it is...

#7) you are pathetic

Asking a girl out by asking a friend to ask her, using text messages, calling on the phone, and sending an e-mail are all pretty damn stupid. If you're 9 years old it's SORT OF excuseable, but I'm guessing you're not 9, you just have the mentality of a 9 year old.

Note: getting one's phone number is not indicative of one's "interest". Case-in-point: me. :aargh:

Directly confronting her is the best way. I don't believe you need courage or guts. As long as the void of need/want is occupied with the objective to go out with her, you have only a mission to accomplish.

eh, if something like that pops up in my head, i'll ignore the gal even MORE.

i just prolly talk to her more often that i would, but i'll prolly be so anxious i start doing other stuff at the same time.

so... i suk.

Phone usually never works (at least for me) for they are a Big SMACKDOWN 7 times (asking out that is...usually asking girls to HC or Prom was never an issue though for I was only SMACKDOWN once using a note). Also emails do not work, that is pure garbage...smackdown twice using that method. Well the only time something worked was in...*snort* 8th grade where I asked a girl out using a note (of course she called later and said that her parents will not let her date until high school). Ever since then I never was able to ask any girl out using the "lame" method of the phone or email.

Ah yes laugh at me for I have yet to find the most effective method.

While a face to face approach is often preferable, it does have the unfortunate side effect of putting people on the spot. She might agree to something she’s not really comfortable with, or she might panic and reject you outright. Remember, she also needs time to think it over, especially if she’s never entertained the idea of you and her as a couple. If you already have a good idea that she is interested, then this guaranteed to work. However, I reason that until you’re able to deal with excuses in real time, or comfortable with simply walking away from rejection, face to face may not be the best option.

Using SMS to build up familiarity and rapport can be useful, especially if you or her are busy with other commitments, which I’m sure many of us are. Of course, if you’re seeing her every day of the week… this shouldn’t be necessary; but it’s still a useful adjunct to verbal communication. Other benefits with SMS: the medium is concise, and probably won’t be misinterpreted unless you really fuck up. Also, it allows you both time to make a considerate reply. If you get an excuse, it’s probably the same as you would’ve got going face to face; EXCEPT that this time you can take your time dealing with it and forming a proper challenge.

For example: I’d previously spent the day with her and a couple of her friends. Fun, but not quite what I was after. The next message specified that next time it should be “just you and me.” If she hadn’t replied to me, I was prepared to call with “I know you’re indecisive, so let ME decide for you…” (something I could only say because I knew she was indecisive (when someone tells you 10 times in one day…)), and leave it at that.

I didn’t have to, because after a few days, she replied: “I’m flattered, but I feel more comfortable going out in a group.” I’d just like to take a moment to ask you all to stop for a minute to think about how you would’ve felt and how you would’ve responded… at the time I was hurting.

My reply: When I think back, if I had gone with a more traditional face to face approach, I probably would’ve been stumped at the first reply, and disappointment on the face can’t be hidden. Circumstances as they were, we’d done most of our prior communication through fairly laidback SMS, so this seemed a natural way to continue. I should say I did ‘seal the deal’ with a phone call to finalize times/places etc.

I send mind messages.

I'm shyly and going to ask first friends... =(

All that metods are viable, but the only way to know if she's really interested is inviting her directly, because everything else can be interpreted like just like friendship thing.

Go directly, you can warm up with some of the other options, after all you wont invite her out of the blue, that lowers your chances of being acepted. But after some warm up, ask her out.