Friends with Benefits... Yay or Nay?
 

Has anyone ever had any good or bad experiences with this type of relationship?

Only good can come of it.

FACT.

The only time bad comes from a no-strings-attached fuck-o-rama is when the woman gets attached and starts to get all emotional. And then she tells all your friends, making you look like a complete shit-bag, and by then it's too late to re-cast her despite how pissed you are at her for being such a drama-slut.

Other than that, Skills is teh correct

I've never heard of a bad experience, and I haven't had any bad one's either. But if she does get all emotional about it... I guess that's when it goes bad...

Damn, what percentage of people go through relationships like these at least once in their life?

Joseph

First off, stop signing your posts. It makes you look stupid.

Second, no-strings attached relationships work great, so long as they're exactly that. And actually, in my experience, a lot of times it's the guy, not the girl, who gets jealous and possessive and fucks everything up. The second you feel the slightest inkling of emotional attachment, or even just jealousy, you have to tell her. It's part of the deal. So long as everyone is constantly aware of just what the status of the relationship is, it'll never be a problem.

These relationships, even more than traditional ones, demand open communication.

It's definitely usually the guy. The few times I've been in this experience *I'm* the one who fucked it up. =D

I had a friend with benefits. I ended up knocking her up. :(

Listen to Denicalis. The man speaks truth.

Are you trying to tell me that an actress turned out to be a massive drama queen? You must be joking, because that is simply inconceivable.

I kind of get the feeling that little Joey here would probably do well to avoid this kind of relationship. He's kind of got that naive kid aura about him.

russ, he's only interested for ten years down the road.

Incidentally, joe, stop listening to the seasoned pros around here: these kind of situations, like Sassafrass said, require a lot of open communication. They also require such a large amount of maturity levels on both/all sides (taking other types of "beneficial" relationships into account) that if you're considering one as a kid, it's time to drop the idea. At this point, just have random one-night-stands, instead.

Sassafrass hasn't posted in this thread, you putz. You clearly mean me, and you'd do well never to confuse the two of us again.

random one night stands, friends with benefits, arent they the same thing?

No, not at all.

Not even remotely, mate. One night stands are generally with a non-friend. A friend with benefits is regular sex with no relationship, usually with, you know, a friend.

The yay or nay really depends on you and the person you are with, I had a relationship like this years ago, I had a crush on him and told him that I really liked him, so it went from on and off.

Now that I am happly taken he and I are still good friends and he now has a girlfriend too.

Both are large, loud and obnoxious, bearded, and have sex with people they met on the internet.

Easy to get them confused, I guess. I know I've made the mistake more than once.

So do you think that a friends with benefits relationship stems from two people with a strong sexual attraction for each other but two different lives (in their focus)?

I think friends with benefits stems from two people who want to cum on each other but don't want to date. Whether because they know it won't work, or because they're not looking to be tied down.

Look, this isn't rocket science.

lol @ deep explanations for wanting sex.

There are drama queens, and then there's this girl. I've worked with plenty of actresses who keep the drama to a minimum, or keep it to themselves. This girl drags EVERY SINGLE PERSON SHE KNOWS into it. It's uncanny, you'd have to see it to believe it. Even in our film/acting circles, this girls is widely-regarded for being abnormally fucked in the head.

So far I have only had one successful friend with benefits, and one failed. I quickly learned that you need to lay down the ground rules very openly, nothing assumed. There are no emotions... this is strictly sexual... etc. Not only that, you have to keep remind them. But it's so worth it...

Been there, done that. First I started to get attached her and then I just got completely bored with her. I think shes started to get attached to me though which is tough since I totally do not want any sort of relationship right now.

I'd advise against it unless you're really desperate.

Ditched her for the yaoi? :tpg:

It can be good. As long as it isnt your ex your doing it with. Because when I did it...we got back together lmao.

I've only ever seen it end badly... but then a girl will probably only say something if it does end badly.