same-sex love
 

Just don't forget: it's a GENERAL thread :p

I'm a guy, and i'm in love with another guy. Although I claim not to care about "public opinion", I must say I sometimes feel uneasy to hold his hand or kiss him in public, especially at university. For some reason, heterosexuals seem to have romantic monopoly.

I mean come on, we're keeping our clothes on, we're remaining decent, we're not comitting any crimes...

What is your attitude towards same-sex lovers?

I don't want to see anyone making out/dry humping in public - heterosexual or homosexual. Light kissing, holding hands, etc. doesn't bother me at all, whether it's a man and a woman, two men, or two women.

I couldn't have phrased it better myself.

I don't like watching anyone do anything outlandishly sexual in public, gay, dyke or straight. I expect people to be courteous enough to respect me, as I am courteous enough to respect them.

I don't really give same-sex lovers a second thought, to be honest. If I see a gay couple holding hands or something I just think that it's sweet, which is the same thing that I'd think with a straight couple. Unfortunately most of the people where I live think quite the opposite.

I'm with Alice and Sass on the dry-humping in public thing.

Gay couples never bothered me, but my friend Marvin has a lot of stories of where you can't be if you are gay. In Houston, Texas, everywhere he went with his black lover, they would be stared at. Apparently, in Texas, it was a double whammy to be black and gay.

In Chicago, it isn't so bad. Hell, we have a neighborhood that is so gay it is called "Boy's Town".

Piggybacking on being gay in Texas, I got some stares and hushed comments when I went to the mall once with my ex and we held hands. I didn't notice at the time and was only informed of the staring and whispering by my friends, who decided to accompany us on the excursion.

I think outlandishly gross PDAs are, well, gross. I never did them when I had a relationship and I don't plan to ever do PDAs of that nature. Holding hands, sure. Getting cuddly, sure. Playing tonsil hockey, no.

Even as a gay dude, I have to admit that seeing a two people of the same sex holding hands or kissing would draw my attention pretty well, just because it's so unusual.

I can't say I'm against people making out in public, though. I just don't see why I should care or how that's disrespectful.

I could honestly care less what anyone does in public. I dont get offended easily, and honestly cant see what there is to get offended about. Im also not homophobic in the least bit. Its proably different in the north, but in the south, everyones highly offended when they see interacial, or homosexual couples out and about.

Its weird when all your friends go quiet when they see a gay or interracial couple, and im the only one whos like, "big fucking deal."

My sisters gay, and I fear for her only because people can be very closed minded sometimes.

I have to agree with Eleo. I think many people stare not becuase they are offended by anything, but just becuase its not very common to see 2 guys/girls holding hands. I'm not saying that there are not ignorant people out there, just that not all who stare are ignorant.

I hate it when people feel the need to hold hands on the escalator. WAY TO FORM A BERLIN WALL.

Spoken so well my mind exploaded.

Yeah, i totally agree with that above statement. If i see a homosexual couple i might look twice, or linger a little bit, but it's only cause i haven't really been exposed to that growing up, and you don't see alot of it where i come from. Nothing against Homosexuality, just not used to it.

I'll admit to being put off at seeing gay guys and girls kissing and showing affection to one another because it's unusual and I was raised in a traditional family. I'm sure that if homosexual PDA became more commonplace I wouldn't care.

I don't have a problem with it. It is the flamboyant kind of homosexuals that see fit to flaunt their sexuality (and other things) in everyone's face that give the cool gay people at bad rep when they don't deserve it. Bottom line: If you are happy together and can behave in public, then I'm happy for you. :-)

same thing here. these people made me hesitate before i could accept my self totally

And pardon my ignorance, but what is PDA?

PDA: Public Display of Affection.

rofl

Anyway, my attitude towards same-sex lovers? Umm, it would be odd if I didn't totally approve :)

As far as PDA, I barely EVER see homosexual couples up here in Ohio, but when I met one guy in Cleveland he insisted on holding my hand, and apparently around his campus (Case Western Reserve University) it was a common thing because he wasn't afraid at all and nobody seemed to pay attention to us...? It still felt a bit weird to me. But I don't care.

I only mind PDAs by people I don't find attractive. Otherwise, it would be awesome to have free porn happening everywhere I go each day.

i think the reason it may "gross" some people out is because like for me, I have always thought men are supposed to be like uber manly, with deep manly voices, and manly hands, and that dress manly ect. and when i see two guys holding hands or something it just is so un-natural (for me) to see that.. its just something about it that just hits me the wrong way... same thing with women... but that is just my opinion.. i'm not trying to start anything, so please, please don't start a fight or anything, i'm not trying to and i really don't feel like arguing with anyone, i just felt like stating my opinion.

Two men kissing each other or being lovey dovey in public I find disgusting. Lesbians however(if they are hot) is very pleasing to the eye. Heterosexuals I really don't care either way.

I don't mind at all, be it heterosexual or not. I actually like watching couples make out - makes me happy to see they're in love, and enjoying life.

I think they are cute. When I see homosexual couple, I imagine story of beautiful boys pairing just like in the shoujo manga. =D

but seriously, I respect other people's sexual orientation, love is universal after all.

I don't really mind gay people at all, but kind of like Alice said, I think most gratuitious PDAs are overwhelming, straight or gay. I have no moral opposition to any sexuality, so whatever anyone's perrogative is, I'm cool with.

Of course, there are some people that just bother me in thier flamboyancy of exemplifying a stereotype. At dinner last night, there was a table of solely fat, gay theater majors singing 90s pop songs out of key. Jesus Christ, RAPING my ears. No matter what persuasion someone is, I just think acting like the worst stereotype of it is obnoxious.

As the Wiccans say, "An it harm none, do what thou wilt." I will admit that it almost always surprises me whenever I see a homosexual couple, and my eyes do tend to linger a little longer than they would on a couple of breeders. :P The reason for that is simple: I'm just not used to seeing it. I've got friends who are homo/bisexual, but that doesn't change the fact that I see heterosexual couples every time I walk down the street, and I almost never see homosexuals that are... together. MOST OF MY FRIENDS ARE SINGLE!! :P

Yeah, I actually don't generally mind seeing them, no matter who is involved. There's a time and place for everything. I'd have no problem seeing ANY couple making out in a park, or by the harbour downtown. Y'know, low-traffic and reasonably romantic areas. I can see wanting to give your partner an uber-passionate kiss under that big beautiful Oak tree. But when I'm hanging at my usual java joint, or shootin' pool at my favorite dive bar, I really don't wanna see that. I mean, you go to these places for the atmosphere, and it kinda takes away from that if there are couples slobbering all over eachother. We don't need to see your most private moments. Jeeze, it's almost like watching someone take a dump! There's an alleyway out back for a reason, folks! ;)

I have not seen any gay couples in public, so I do not know how I would react. Most likely, it wouldn't bother me at all, and I would try to ignore them and go on with my life.

Lots of gay couples here in Vancouver. I don't mind what they do, but I've mostly seen holding hands in here. It doesn't matter entirely.