What is wrong with me?
 

Everytime I get a girl to like me (whom I also like), I end up ignoring her or walking pass her when she says "HI!".

Once, I was so close! Me and this girl were alone in the auditorium. This was an odd occasion (I was with another girl I liked, but she ran off when the other girl came) So... then, we fooled around -- I stuffed her in the curtains. Then, she said she didn't want to class... I told her "Go to class!" - when I should have convinced/agreed for her to stay with me... for some fun time >.>

And now, I just ignore her... why am I like this? I'm such a chicken (or a pussy for lack of better term).

... what is wrong with me? ;_;

edit: This girl - I was eyeing for some time. And coincidentally, when I was playing the piano (beautifully, she comments), she approachs me and then afterwords, writes in her blog that she likes me.

And I also did this with another girl... I keep making the same mistake. I'm not strong enough.

It looks like you already understand what the problem is, so what do you expect from us? It's not like anyone can make you less of a pussy over the internet.

That's just rude.

Sounds like you're gay.

Go after chics you don't care about.

Am I the only one who finds this hilarious?

I would but I think I've done a similar thing in my school auditorium.

Yes. ^_^

Dude, if you're unintentionally ignoring her, you need to SAY something. She'll get the wrong idea!

If you like her, and she likes you, why not just try to spend some time with her? Is seems you had some fun while stuffing her in the curtains (heh heh), so why not try to CONVENIENTLY bump into her at lunch or something?

You really need to show her that you're interested if you are. If I were her, I would be REALLY CONFUSED, you know?

Wait, wait...you stuffed a bitch in the curtains?

Well I hid her there. You don't know how deep and black those curtians are. Lost forever.

Meh, when she tangled in the curtains, our conversation went kinda like this:
"Can you breathe?"
"Yes..."
"Damn!" (Grabs some rope and ended up chasing her like a fucking rapist) ._.

Yeah, ignoring her - smooth eh? =S But... bumping into her? I will try that.

Anyways, heh, I just met two new bitches... and they took (stole by force) my email. Piano is the best way for getting chicks =S

There's your problem. You don't really have any respect for women, so you woo them and then you dump them off. I don't know why this is, maybe none of them make your heart sing and are just temporary objects of pseudo-affection.

You should go experiment with guys.

In that case,
Are you available, Eleo?

Yes I am.

Anyway, you have a good thing going. Falling in love is a bad thing. So is marriage. Those who don't get married lead much happier lives. No one can control you that way or tell you what you can and can't do. There's nothing wrong with your current disposition toward women unless it bothers you.

The fact that you take effort to get a girl to like you shows to me it's not talking to women that you fear. Perhaps you fear a relationship.

Are you hungry for chinese eggrolls and dumplings? Mine, to be specific...

Meh, I'm weird. Sometimes I'm able to speak with girls and sometimes I'm not. But today was an odd occasion -- I was even able to make them laugh histerically. =S

But yeah, I totally agree. Heh, I am very afraid of the future. I tend to border myself in the past and avoid thoughts of the present/future... Then again, I'm an asshole.

Instead of criticising how much of an asshole you think you are, get your fears off you once and for all, dude.
If you like a girl, and she likes you, then stop ignoring her!

I think you got it right there. The fact that you like her and she ends up liking you, but you basically start ignoring her pretty much says that you're afraid of a relationship.

This can stem from multiple reasons, but I bet you know why.

So, how many times have you stuffed women into the curtains? Do you have a on-going record?

(joking)

Well, it seems your problem is that you are a chicken/wuss. You know what you want, but you are fearful of rejection or being denied. And it seems you move too fast at a pace in getting what you want. You need to learn more about the people you have the upmost desire to interact with. You need to spend more time than being lazy ass. "Oh, I can't wait that long to understand the bitch, so into the curtain she goes. Lazy, lazy, lazy, but it works! Oh wait, she has class now..... "

Quoted for truth.

I think you're insecure. Or fear rejection even when you're sure she wouldn't.

Do you have Asperger's Syndrome?

I was the same way at one point. I think it may be something like a fear of commitment.

My problem was a lot more long-winded so I won't bother even trying to explain it here right now, because I should be going to school.

Just stop sucking dick and get with the program. There are pussies that want you. Take them.

For goodness sake. So close? So close to what? In terms of what you want, It sounds like you're lacking a defined outcome.

People generally learn after making mistakes. If you keep making the same mistakes over and over again... it's not a matter of lacking strength.

Especially after reading this:
With evidence like that, it must be true :)

Maybe he was practicing how to roll a fatty?...

That's why you have no friends!!
She even made it easy for you. She initiated!!!

There is no solution to your problem, it seems.

Best bet is to cut your wrists. Make sure you do it downward from your wrist, not across like a girl would.

~

Actually, how old are you?

Now, it's getting quite severe. I think I'm getting panic attacks when I'm around people resulting in antisocial behavior. It happens periodically and sometimes, I am the complete opposite - very social and outgoing. But now, I just feel down and out of it. Like... I'm afraid that I'll make a mistake.

I even walked out of my good (girl) friend's party without a clear explanation - I had to go to another party... which is true but it's my grandfather's. And I hope she didn't get the wrong idea - like her party sucked. I'll have to explain... sigh.

Heh, it's pretty pointless on the internet now. I'll ask my doctor. =S

PS. I'm 17.

Panic attacks?

Care to explain?

Just relax, dude.

See a psychaitrist and get some Zoloft, man. The bouncing egg will do wonders.

I agree with the others that it is a fear of rejection AND a fear of commitment. You like the chase, I think. =)

I agree. There are so many good explainations of the possible problem you are having with women. I have a similar problem where if a person becomes too clingy and acts like they don't have a life unless I'm around, then I get nervous that they will take away my freedom to make other friends and I end up getting mad whenever I see them. That's one of the problems I have with the person that I am currently residing with. Ironically, I have a problem with big crowds sometimes if I know that these are people I will see over and over again who could embarrass me.

I don't know if you have a fear of rejection, but it could be a fear of commitment/loss of freedom. Or maybe you just like the rush of the chase and when that chase ends you get bored and end up avoiding them b/c of that lack of rush. It sounds like you already know what is wrong, but you just need to find a way to change it (if you want to change it). One thing you might need to remedy the problem is to meet a girl that leads you on enough to make the chase interesting and leave you always on the edge of catching her while being available enough for you not to see it as a lost cause.

However, finding someone like that could be difficult, so you can either talk to a professional in figuring out what really needs to be done, or decide for yourself whether or not you want to change part of your personality or keep things the way they are.

I back that too (^).

I also think it is because you fear a relationship. If you wanted one, you would've asked her.
It sounds like you like these girls and they like you back. You really want to just be friends, but something is pulling you to do more.

Due to lack of experiance, social problems, or fear, you never push the relationship further.

Eventually the girl and you become flirting friends and it fades away from there.
My suggestion (which is menial because I lack experiance too!): decide how much you like this girl and how much it interests you enough to keep going further. If your curiosity on women stop and you want to play Halo instead, than you need to get out more.

I think that eventually, it won't matter like all other things in High School. HS is just to get out there and have fun. If you don't have alot of fun at parties because of lack of interest, then don't obligate your attendence. In the long run, most men just seem to develop a since of curiosity for women.

If you are undecided, then make friends with her and stop ignoring her. If you start to like her more in all ways, then push the relationship. If it falls back, you'll at least have a good friend :)

Joseph

I may be a bit late here, but yes Alice, that is damn funny when it's brought to one's attention on it's own like that.:tpg: It's not too odd though, I remember when I was in drama in high school, the curtains on our stage were always a prime place to get in and out of for whatever reason. It was like walking into a huge closet full of tons upon tons of furry and fluffy coats.


Anyway, I think you should just get yourself to talk to the girls you like guy. I can see how it'd be tough of scary but you'll probebly be glad when you do it. As Sass said, if you don't it'll seem like you're ignoring them on purpose and they'll get the wrong idea. It's probebly just nervousness taking you over.

Wow. Another girl likes me. And we hung around after school today. I go home. Block her because she was going to be a huge distraction (And I'm an asshole/dumbass). Finds out. And is mad pissed (obviously).

And I don't know if I like her. I'm very confused right now. My friend also likes her and I already betrayed him before. Except, this time it's quite..... horrendous ;_; I told him that nothing is between me and her. But she is quite down about her last relationship. I don't want to fake it and go out with her. Is that selfish of me? I want to figure if she is the one... (sounds kinda lame).

I don't think I can take it anymore. >.< I'm going to go gay after this =S