Are you a confident person?
 

well, if you ask yourself, how do you rate personality? Are you confident or generally have low-self esteem?

Back then I had zero confidence during my high school because I was good for nothing in sport, and my marks were not incredibly good. But now, since I'm in college, I'm being pretty confident about my skills and I begin to acccept what I have and what I dont have.

I'm surprised that some of my friends who I thought really high back then, now apparantly have condifence problem during their college.

how about you guys?

I've barely got confidence in myself and I have low self esteem. I'm an incredibly shy person. My job is forcing me to talk to people though, so I'm sure my shyness will at least slowly disappear.

I'm a pretty confident person. People usually act surprised.

The only times I am NOT confident is when I am entering a situation where I do not really know whats going on, or I am being led by someone else.

Apart from that, I can genuinely say I am confident in almost every situation. I am usually most confident when I am in the lead, or I am the one making decisions.

I used to have a huge amount of self-confidence issues and they were really becoming a problem. After I got sick, all the problems seemed so trivial in comparison and melted away. I still have some things to work through but I'm much farther along then I was.

I used to be confident when I was in elementary school. Other than that, I'm a 10-year pessimist struggling with depression. The only way I can get confident is if I'm focusing on something that I'm extremely interested in. These days, even that seems almost non-existent.

I'm pretty much confident about everything except the opposite sex. I'm pretty reclusive since I've had mostly shit luck with them, and the ones I end up liking have usually lumped me into the friend zone by the time I start liking them. It's an endless cycle that wears me out.

I have found that over time I have gained more confidence but not super ultra confidenct. Usually, I find myself slacking a bit, thinking "I can't get xyz done or I can't do xyz", which leads me to start thinking the OPPOSITE, usually resulting in fulfilling said goal.

This is pretty much a perfect description of me. I've been pessimistic for much longer, though.

Most of the time I'm far from confident. I usually shy away from social contact, and hide in my rez room. However, there are some odd but rare occasions when I break out of that shell and partayy like never beforeee. But ya, I'm usually the quiet guy.

I'll also feel this is the case with me. It seems I've been fairly insecure all along.
I basically feel communicatively detached and cut off from relating to most people. I am fairly certain I have a form of Asperger's. This has made me a bit sullen over the years.

Still as I get older and regardless of situation, confidence is something that must be built. Art has been my main vehicle for expressing myself since kindergarten and I don't think I would've survived without it.

I am also in the process of accepting what I do and don't have and working with it. In the end, my confidence (or lack thereof) and overall pessimism has little bearing on my drive and willingness to overcome it and achieve my personal goals for a better life and perspective.

The only time I have any chance whatsoever of being confident is when I'm drunk. Even then I still find it difficult to be outgoing. Lately I seem to be more inverted than I ever have been. Luckily the internet provides me with anonimity (to a certain point) and as such I can post shit like this.

I'm a rather confident person. There aren't a lot of things that make me nervous except maybe if I have to perform a clinical procedure on someone for the first time. But that would probably only happen if I hadn't mastered the skill as well as I would have wanted to.

But public speaking, participating in group discussions, and other social matters related to that don't really bother me. If anything, public speaking can be exciting for me most of the time.

Heh.. me, confident? Not at all. I always seem to think what I'm doing and/or what I'm saying is wrong and that others are constantly judging me. Even online I'm somewhat worried about what others'll think of me/my words.

I wish I were the opposite, I really do.

That about describes me. Alot of times people have told me I have to be more confident about women and I feel like saying "You try being confident when previous experience tells you that 10 out of 10 women will reject you no matter what you say or do."

Aside from that I'm highly overconfident, you might even say I have an ego. I mean heck... I sit around thinking about how I could do my Bosses job better then he can.

I feel I'm a very confident person in almost every possible way. I'm not the kind of person that will go up and talk to random people in the street, but that comes more from the fact that I'm a very introverted person, meaning I tend to live in my own world in a sense.

The only times when I can say I may lack confidence is when I have a big assignement due, especially when it comes to composition, though I think that amounts more to stress than lack of confidence.

While my ego has fallen from its galaxy-sized height of back in HS, I'm still quite a confident person. I've always been a high achiever academically and a perfectionist in things I do. I started doing solo musical performances in any number of groups (church ensembles, school, community groups, whatever), which helped a lot too.

The notable exception to my confidence extended through my Freshman year of college with the opposite sex until the day where it finally sunk in to me that it didn't matter what random other people thought of me. Once you're not afraid of looking like an idiot once in a while life gets easier in every regard. No risk, no gain.

Oh, and another tip for those looking to boost your self-confidence: if you can convince yourself that everyone else's opinion is worth less than your own (with a few exceptions always, of course), then ignoring them and not caring about embarrassing yourself becomes a lot easier. I don't recommend that attitude at your job, however.

I'm an extremely confident person, both in personality and in what I do. I am Max Biggs, after all. However, I can lose that confidence under the right circumstances. Sometimes, when I continously screw something up and can't seem to get it right, I start to think that I have a severe deficiency in common sense. I also get down sometimes when people explain things to me in great detail, and while explaining decide that they'll just do the task themselves. That's always nice.

After I got out of school, my confidence and self esteem have grown to the positive side surprisingly a lot. Back in the day it was quite hard to make friends, participate in groups, and that sort of stuff that required interaction with others.

Sometimes, like Sass posted, I'm not very confident when someone else that I don't know much leads doing whatever it is, or when there's a situation I can't respond to quickly.

I guess I have to thank the two jobs I've had because I had to interact with others, and it wasn't something I could avoid (Airport, being somewhat of a Customer Service Rep being one), eventually learning how to make friends, interact with strangers and the such.

Im pretty confident around other people but when its with girls then i feel like the room turned up like 100 degrees.

Extremely confident. It is one of my biggest strengths personality-wise. I never doubt myself, and I always believe that I can achieve anything I set my mind to. I always try to stay motivated in life, and the more motivated I am, the more confident I am.

Celes, I respect that.
Being an English-as-a-second-language-speaker, I find it hard to approach Caucasian friends. I am most confident when it comes to music, especially soundtracks which I am far less knowledgeable than most of folks here.

I'm confident in knowing that people fuck with me nonstop which keeps me in check with myself. So it's not possible not to be confident.

Yeah i'm confident.

My friends would ask me

"Jason How do you take the verbal punishment that you do from folks?"
My reply
"They are the ones with the problem not me, I have more important things to think about."

I spent my entire life being under the gun from my parents and society in general.
From the verbal abuse of my dear old departed father, to the ceaseless attacks from my years in the U.S. education system and the streets of my hood, then to the loving care of drill sergeants in the Army. I have seen and endured many battles.
I know the definition of pariah and always know that wherever I go a kind of stigma follows.
I suppose my confidence comes from the fact that I impact people with my mere presence which puts me in a position of power.

Oh god, this has me laughing so hard I'm in tears. Good one.

I empathize your situation lordsword. It must be very tough to deal with verbal abuse. Though I havent experienced it, I could imagine how terrible it is, being rejected by someone we supposed to be close to.:(

Am I a confident person? Yes and no.

Yes because I'm certain if I apply myself I will succeed. No because there are many areas in my life I have yet to confront.

I don't have confidence issues. I haven't set foot in college yet so I can't say how I'll be when/if I eventually get there.

I think a good test of confidence is public speaking. In the past 8 months I've had to get up in front of 30+ people to conduct a 45 minute administrator training class at work. It has been a lot of fun for me but I know a lot of people have trouble doing that kind of thing.

lol @ the drill sergeants. They aren't bad, just loud. Some people get freaked out when they scream in your face but I always thought it was fun. Kind of like a little game; who will win the guy screaming or the person who is supposed to show absolutely no response? In my mind I always won.

It hurt the most when I was young and tender but as I grew I got numb to it and eventually expected it. It could be compared to living a life that could be compared to the beaches of WWII normandy.

With my family there was near constant fighting and physical violence.
Sometimes I can almost hear my dad in the replies I get here.

I soldier on in the knowledge that for what ever reason most people of the world consider me a threat. Even when I am minding my own business.

I live an existence where everywhere I turn folks have their trenches dug and prepared for my arrival. Some welcome me in to take my post among their ranks, like my best friend who physically fought to stay out of the gang scene in L.A. other people just open fire.

I'm at home in the conflagration, my comfort is probably the source of my confidence.

Wow, usually I only see furries or goths who compare the verbal abuse they get with historically important battles.

It's always WWII though. I mean, I know it's deeply embedded in the American psyche, but isn't the Civil War or the Revolutionary War also important these days?

I would put your dad on my buddy list. pullin' for you here buddy

I started college as a painfully shy fellow who was wound well too tight for his own good. The only situation I was confident in, ironically enough, was during public speaking, because I felt that I had more control over what my audience thought of me through how I present myself, as opposed to other social situations.

I became less shy and more confident during college, but my confidence only rose to its current levels when I started working as a microbiologist. I worked in quality control, making sure products weren't contaminated with microbes and such, so, believe me, I've had to deal with a lot of bullshit from everyone in the company. That taught me how to be more assertive.

I gained many job skills, and more importantly, learnt to stand by the conclusions I came to through my analyses. There was a time, for example, when I found high levels of fecal bacteria in a product, and stood by my conclusions even though the company would lose tens of thousands of dollars because of it. Independent lab analysis then confirmed my results and justified the actions I took to prevent exposure of our customers to these bacteria.

Now that I'm pursuing a Master's degree, I know that I have the skills, the background and the motivation to succeed. That is the source of my current confidence in myself.

Wow so much drama, I'm kind of surprised at the honesty of people on this thread considering the scrutiny you can come under around here. Rather then be a heckler I suppose I'll add my story to the mix.

Without going deeper then I want to on the subject we'll just say as a kid I was clueless about other peoples emotions, needs etc. When it did hit me however, thanks to a lot of 'discipline' shall we say and rumours pressuring my parents into thinking they were doing a bad job it hit me hard. From then as long as I could tell someone was genuine I would put other people before me, pretty much nice guy syndrome to Christian extremist levels at the time.

The only problem with that kind of new empathy is since before that I was a clueless bully the backlash by my school peers was enormous, like the merciless overthrowing of some fallen tyrant, but hey my school was happy! No more problem child! A lot of high/secondary school is full of crap imo but it doesn't stop it effecting you, my over thinking, angst, empathetic side won over most of the rest of my personality, my confidence suffered a lot from the joys of being a doormat and I've been trying to undo it ever since. :annoyed:

I used to be careful about what I'd say on forums. But you know what? It's the inernet. What are they going to do? Hurt my feelings?

I would say I'm a fairly confident person. I handle many unknowns during the day, and right or wrong, I'm able to continue forward with a firm foundation of self-knowledge and observations. This has served me in both my personal and professional life as others are willing to depend on me for assistance and advice.