Have you been bullied before?
 

Hi guys, just want to ask if you may have experienced the worst case in childhood life. Bullied.

Somehow being bullied by my "friends" in my youth gave a very deep impact to me up to now. I feel like every friends that I've met is not really a friends. In my mind I keep thinking that they will go sometimes because they are not really a friend. I fear that people will think bad about me if I'm talk this and that. Overall, I feel myself being totally imperfect and not worthed as friend, though my friends keep telling me that's not true.

of course there is worse than that... but I want to hear your story too.

Sure, I was pushed around and teased for a plethora of reasons ranging from the obvious, like a funny last name, to the bizzare, like I just happened to be the nearest target. I don't think any kid has gone through school and not been bullied. However, by the time I was in High School, it mostly stopped and I wasn't even offended by people's remarks. I just took it in stride. Oh, you called me a fucking pussy. Ouch.

If anything, being insulted earlier in life made me a little tougher to verbal abuse during those years. No kid is going to be emotionally hurt by these remarks on their own unless they have other problems to live with. We grow up, find out that name calling and pushing is hardly a crisis, and move on.

I wasn't really picked on all that much, but your occasionally bully in elemetary that wanted to act bad ass and have a rage against the machine or something. It's pretty much stopped now, but my friends still joke around with me and stuff with insults about how fat I am. I don't really take it lightly but I try converting my anger into a laughter feeling.

I wasn't bullied anymore after I got contact lenses and boobs, but before that, was I ever. I was basically the skinniest, ugliest, most-boyish looking kid ever. I had coke-bottle glasses, super short hair, the works...and most of the girls hated me, for some reason.

I blame my hideousness.

Anyway, as soon as I grew out of that ugly, awkward stage I must have gotten more self-confidence and developed a "Don't f--k with me" attitude, because the bullying stopped completely and I actually turned out to be semi-popular.

One thing I learned about human nature: If you allow people to run all over you, they will.

When I was in elementary school, a few attempted to bully me. I guess they figured it wasn't worth it because I was too much of a loner. Other than that, people didn't really mess with me.

Yeah, one guy in my then group of "friends" used to bully me and it worked. The rest of my friends at the time seemed to be alright except when he was around, but when he was the rest of them would tend to stir it up even if they didn't always get involved themselves. It didn't exactly help that I had no control of my emotions as a kid and used to cry about everything no matter how hard I'd try to stop it from happening.

Anyway I put up with that for a year or so, but one of my best friends (who I'd known since I was like 4) had already been forced out of our group by that one guy, so when I'd finally had enough I went into my best mate's new group of friends and everything was much better after that. Since then I've been much happier and I can take things more lightly now and not just start crying over everything (seriously, I can't understand why I was like that because the whole time I was just trying to stop it). And since I went to uni I've actually been really popular with the friends I made here.

There's always some pompous asshat that seeks attention more than anything. I got bullied a couple times, but dealt with it according, and usually they just backed off after realizing it wasn't worth the effort.

In elementary school, I was bullied. Nothing too serious, just a chase here or a threat there. However, due to my my choices of schools after elementary school, this has petered off. I imagine it's the same with many people.

Oh man, I was the one that beat up kids like all of you. Hahaha what a surprise! XD (JK)

umm never bullied, just made fun of.

I wasn't bullied too much, except for some rather troublesome times. I got a lot of racist abuse in general when I was ten and younger. People flinging shit at me (no, really) and calling me names. Some american kid in one of my schools was a known bully and an abject retard, he once punched me in the face. People would call me "fish-lips" and stuff like that. Then I hit puberty, and for some strange reason no one even tried to fuck with me anymore.

I was bullied a little bit... actually a lot but I didnt really call it "bullying".

It sorta stopped when I starting talking back to whoever was saying/doing stuff and then I'd cause just a lot more trouble >.>

My worst time during childhood is when my friends discriminate me as "sissy" because my face, my attitude seems not as boyish as them. The result... I almost questioning whether I am a man or woman... it's really tough time, but somehow I manage to pass it, and I become strong person till now.

I hope no one of you experienced what I feel it's so damn hurt that you might wish to die.

I remember being picked on in elementary school by a few of the boys because I managed to make high grades on the assignments. We all managed to graduate high school together and we forgot those days ever happened.

I was also the first to get braces at my elementary school. I think only one other person in my class had them, but I was teased for about a year. I wasn't really affected by it though, since during middle school, everyone had braces except me.

Gee, who hasn't been bullied before. I've got so many stories about my encounters with bullies, I could probably write a novel. I'll see if I can find my old post from another forum about some of the bullies I've met.

When I was living in Detroit in middle and elementary school, I definitely had severe run-ins with bullying, all starting with my being very short, and then extending to my braininess. Fortunately (and I use this term lighty) there were no tolerance policies on any violence, so I never had to deal with anything physical; however the subtle verbal assaults and badgering still got to me.
I can definitely say that it had a large impact on my life. However, I have learned how to get past most of those problems that were left over from that period, and am getting along with life just fine.

I was never personally bullied cause I was always part of the "cool" crowd. I never bullied anyone either however some of my friends did. I was secretly friends with some of the "nerds" and "loosers" though so it always made me feel bad but it was awesome being popular and always having a girlfriend in highschool. Actually that all changed halfway through tenth grade but that's for another thread.

Anyway, in my opinion bullying is a horrible thing and it has obvious negative effects on people and can add to someone depression and as has been seen in the pass can be a contribuating factor in someone choosing suicide as "a way out". D:

I just don't think I could ever cause someone who didn't deserve it that kind of mental or possibly physical pain without feeling guilty about it afterwords.

I was always on the short end of the stick so yes, I can personally tell you bullying stories from grade 1 to grade 12. Sad really.

Even though I try to forget it all, sometimes the bad memories come back.

When I was 9 years old, I got bullied around alot. By my friends, by people from other classes. Just by god damn everyone. I think i was bullied around because i was the quieter one. I was so shy. It was embarrassing for me to speak a word.

I was bullied nearly 7 years then. Because i didnt get any louder.

Then when I was 16 years old, i finally woke up due to events in my life who changed my point of view entirely. And now i experience that i slowly become the one who bullies people around myself. And that is very saddening but i think it is inevitable that you bully back if you have been bullied in your childhood. But oh well

I was bullied as a kid because of my nerdiness, well, actually, I didn't really remember why I was bullied, but I was.

But then, I fought back, and they didn't dare mess with me again, since one of them got sent to hospital because of an injury.

Oh i've been bullied a shit load in the past. It hasn't been so bad over the past few years though which is good. I seem to get bullied alot for being ginger. Because obviously, having ginger hair is like THE funninest thing ever to most people. I've also been bullied for being too 'fat' because i'm not like a size 8. Just all the usual crap really.

Jeez...if you had any idea how much time and money I spend to make my hair ginger.

It's cool the way you say "ginger hair" instead of "red hair." I think I'm going to borrow that.

I was bullied a little, for being an immigrant.

Who gives a shit though.

Eh, I guess it depends on the person when it comes to how to respond.

I never had any trouble with it...

I was bullied in primary school for being fat I got told to go on slimfast, but the funny thing about that was the people picking on me were the same size if not just a little bigger then me. I also got picked on for developing breasts in year 4(9yrs old) and for starting my period in year 5 (10yrs old) all before even hitting teenage years. I also got picked on because of my name, because it's not common and I'm the only one in my area with this name. It sucked and it got carried on into high school. But it eventually died down and I got over it. I was wary of the new friends I met at first because I thought they were just wanting dirt on me to use when and if they bullied me but it never happend and I got some really good friends out of it.

Meh, most children get shit from other students at one time or another. Deal with it, it will make you stronger in the end.

I got some shit in middle school but that went away in high school when I lost 50lbs and grew 4". BTW lifting weights never hurts either.

Back when I was a wee tyke I got bullied for being black. I was in this expatriate-only school in Saudi Arabia full of mostly Brits plus a smattering of other Europeans and some Americana, so yeah, I stood out like whoa. The bullying usually consisted of them ganging up on me and call me blacky, brownie, things of that nature, or picking fights with me and all that. But it was hardly as dramatic as I'd like to be able to make it sound. Kids at that age are just dumb. *shrugs*

I used to be made fun of and bullied back in middle school because I was small and the only asian kid in my class. Come high school I got into brazilian jiujitsu, wrestling, and weight lifting and the bullying stopped alltogether from there. Puberty and exercise helped a lot. By the end of my sophomore year I gained 30 pounds of muscle (155 pounds if you're curious) and benched 225. It all started in the weight room when kids would watch me bench. Pretty soon word got around and no one talked shit to me again.

Although the bullying has stopped I still get hit with racial jokes by one of my 'friends'. He makes fun of my parents and it pissed the fuck out of me. Other than that I think all the trashtalking has stopped.

Sorry if it seems like a lot of bragging or I strike myself as arrogant. I'm actually just proud of the way I turned out :).

I was taunted and teased for being overweight - but I finally snapped in fourth grade and ended up breaking 4 of the kid's ribs :D Needless to say, after he got out of the hospital, he didn't fuck with me anymore. (The best part about it was that I managed to convince our school principal that I thought we were playing tag, and I didn't mean to shove him into the curb of the sidewalk, got off scott free :D).

After I moved to the middle east, the bullying ended.

Not really come to think of it. All through Elementary School I was hot shit and same with Middle School. When I got into High School, I was an asshole trouble maker and no one fucked with that. Now I only get messed with by my close friends who do it all in fun cause they see how oddly weird I am once they get to know me.

Does being beaten almost daily by no less than three unrelated groups of peers ranging in size from 3 to 6 throughout most of grade school count? Or perhaps the general scorn and stigmatisation from the entirety of people I went to school with except for a few of the band people up until about 8th grade? Yeah I'm not bitter. Course almost strangling another student to death did make people stop attacking me perhaps I should have done it earlier.

But really it doen't matter now as that's far behind me and if you let that shit effect your life even on down the road then you have no one but yourself to blame. After all the people who did it were stupid kids then and have gotten well past that point holding onto whatever hate or fear of people that they knocked into you isn't even letting them win anymore as they really don't give a shit or possibly they even regret it at this point.

I've been bullied and been a bully to a certain degree in my life but as of now im a passive sorta person

i've been 'bullied' before, but since it was a upper class girls school it was nothing physically or visual, ie people would exclude me from their groups or conversations, just ignored me if i tried to join in, bitch about people who you've sat with in class or talked to etc. but they seemed to grow out of it by the last two years of school when they realised that i could understand all the stuff we were learning without tutors and studying my arse off. it was a big change for me, since back in primary school i guess i could be called the bully due to fame from having the highest marks in school.

Haven't we all? I'm a bit short for my age so when I was smaller kids used to tease me about that, although I didn't really care for some reason.

Used to be bullied in 8th grade by a single person (really fat and strong) but for no real reason. He always put me into a closet and leaned against it which made it impossible to escape because he was three times heavier than earth. :D That was a really bad period in my life. I didn't want to go to school anymore but fortunately I managed to do so. Over the course of the time it became better as I succeeded in establishing a "fake friendship" with him. :D

And I was semi-bullied in 9th grade for getting off with my best friend quite publicly. :D I didn't care about showing others I'm gay because I didn't even know how it's like to be gay back then - although I never really told anyone of them. But playing footsie with other boys made it pretty obvious I guess. There were no real bad reactions, just a "fag" being shouted at me here and there but nothing I couldn't deal with. The only consequence is that I'm not publicly gay anymore because I'm afraid of negative sanctions - but I'm willing to change that soon. :)


Yesterday a friend told me that one of her classmates has been taken into a psychiatry because of being bullied in secondary school. She said that she didn't even know her real name, she was just known as "google eyes" ("Glubschi" in German, the short term for "Glubschauge"). She never seemed to be affected by it - she was like "Say what you want, bro, I'll do my thing no matter what". But the feelings she tried to swamp out accumulated in her subconciousness and broke out not too long ago (she didn't go into detail so I don't know why she was taken into the psychiatry).

Yeh, most of the bullying I experienced in Primary School came from the fact that I was Asian, smart and not into the "cool" stuff. I was also nerdy.

In high school, however, no one picked on me. Sure there was the occasional verbal assault but nothing much. I kept thinking, "I'll be in an office collecting your tax while you clean my toilets" or something like that. Strangely though, I managed to get out of these occasional verbal assaults.

It was one day when my Sony fanboy friends were bagging Nintendo. Now, I'm not a Nintendo fanboy but their reasons for hating Nintendo were ridiculous. And because I owned a Nintendo system (the 64) they started bagging me. Although I could usually bite my anger for some reason I smashed one of the guys' face and he went to hospital.

The next day, the "Big Bully" of the year level came and had a chat with me: "You wanna join us?" Thankfully I was smart enough to say no, which also stopped the bullying.

Keeping a low profile with people knowing the true extent of your anger helps... but obviously it'll get people expelled so don't do what I did. Luckily I never had any record of bad behaviour so my school let me go and they suspended the guy I smashed :D.

The only people who ever bullied me were fat kids and edders who stayed back like 12 times. After I started working out, and regularly winning high school weightlifting competitions, that kind of stopped happening. My advice to any skinny guy who gets picked on is to work out. Don't lift weight's until you're 15 or it might stunt your growth, but do something like pushups or whatever.

Another thing - don't be afraid to take a swing at a bully. 9 times out of 10 it will probably end in you getting hurt, but then what encounter with a bully doesn't? The difference is that after that encounter, he'll find someone else to screw with.

I have never been seriously bullied. Sure there have been events where I have been excluded by people socially and subjected to the occasional verbal abuse. However it is no way as serious as some of the stories i have heard in which people have been beaten daily by a group of people.

Never had it that bad. I was fine in all of elementary school because people always thought I was smart.
In Grade 9 and 10 though I got a locker in one of the corner areas that not much people go by, and then there were there these two guys that just started to hate me because I was so weird (I did stupid stuff like wanting to button my shirt all the way up for some reason) and I ate lunch by myself all the time. They did stuff only once each time like blocking my locker, trying to put a sign on my back during a lunch period, and taking my books. That changed when I somehow made it onto Student Council in Grade 11 and I started to know more genuinely friendly people.
University totally put bullying aside, since everyone's so nice!

When I was younger I was quite pudgy so I got picked on a lot. I think from 3rd - 7th grade, I really received the bulk of it and it was really hard on me. It was typical, I was called fat and ugly but I was never physically hit or anything, just name calling. I lost weight when I hit 8th grade and puberty so it stopped then.

I remember this one boy that simply tortured me in 5th grade. We were neighbors and had the same classroom and he was relentless, to the point of cruelty. I didn't see him for years and ran into him in a 12th grade Calculus class we had together and remember it took him like 10 minutes to have it sink in it was me. Ironically he gained massive amounts of weight in his adulthood (he had no neck at this point) so it was a bit of sweet revenge.

I really think bullying keeps on all through life, except for people saying shit to your face as kids, they talk behind your back as an adult. We've all done it, it's another form a bullying but just in a more discreet manner.

I have two stories: I was five and these boys tried to bully me. They found out what a bad move that was when they ended up with my fists in their faces, and my ass down at the principal's office. Ah well. They never approached me again.

In Grade 4, I had shorts with the alphabet printed on them. The boy across the road made fun of me. Big deal, I says to myself. Then he starts making fun of my sister and that really riles me up. She was really small then. I go back to my house, threatening to come back with a pound of rope (I actually couldn't find any so I settled for a skipping rope :eyebrow: ) to whoop his ass with.

By the time I came back, my sister was about ready to cry because the boy brought his brother too. I guess to intimidate us. Anyway, I ended up whipping his ass with the damn rope, and the freakin' guy ran away. I think he was embarrassed that I actually hit and hurt him, and his brother was there to witness his humiliation. Ha ha!!

Poor weapon choice, but hey, you work with what you got.

Funny how violent I was then.

Yeah, I was bullied about four times when I was younger, but since hitting puberty, I've never had a bully.

Plus I've become mostly immune to verbal assaults, so having bullies actually helped account for something.

Of course I was bullied. If any of you knew me back then, you would have bullied me too! I was a precious, skinny, cute little blonde girl who always wore dresses and patent leather shoes to school. I was extremely shy and I was brought up in this hideously WHITE and RICH small town.

All the girls had fancy shit, like ponies and stuff (seriously). They picked on me because I climbed trees, threw worms, and played in the dirt.

I eventually stopped crying about it. I got a little meaner, a little tougher, and more bitter. Too bad I moved to Eastbumfuck before I could really tell of those bastards off.

When I moved to Putnam, CT, I was essentially the bad girl. I remained the bad girl for years. I guess I learned not to trust chicks. ^_^

The worst type of people (that I have encountered) are the kind that pretend to be your friend to cover up their actions which may be physical or verbal assault.

As someone earlier in the thread mentioned: they form an uneasy friendship with you. In a group conversation they will mock everything you say and twist everything you say into a joke. If you act offended they will claim it is a joke, yet there is something sinister about the fact that all conversations with this person are built around their joke, with you.

It is the most subtle method of bullying around. Luckily I have only encountered it a couple of times.

In elementary school and middle school I was picked on a lot because I was so short for my age. This usually resulted in me hitting a break point where I'd end up pumelling some giant kid in the middle of class. Then it'd be 2 weeks straight of sessions with the school counselor and the principal to show me that "violence wasn't the answer." I'd try to explain to them that punching a bully in the face about 6 times usually yielded the results that I wanted. After a bloody nose and a fat lip, a bully is sure to steer clear of you. Afterwards if you mouth off to them and rub it in, it makes it all the more sweet. In turn you become the bully. Nothing like being the short kid talking shit to all the 5'4" 6th grade giants.

In high school it pretty much stopped as most of the kids who were bullies stopped growing at about 8th grade and never got taller than 5'7" which was awesome. Then all the ex-bullies go out of their way to be good friends with you. I ran into a guy that I'd punched out in 5th grade about a year ago... nicest guy in the world.

Amen to that. But instead of getting beat up. IT was the other way around :D. Then I was the bully. Hehe..

I got bullied a lot in middle school... at one point a guy held a knife to my throat in the middle of the hall right in front of everyone and said "Who thinks this little faggot should die today?"

but now that I think about it, I'm kinda glad that I got bullied, it molded me into someone a lot kinder than what I would have been. I ended up being friends with almost everyone in my later years of highschool.

I think it's something that everyone goes through at some point or another - some more than other's though. I guess I could say that I was bullied quite a bit at school, especially during the awkward teenage years. Afterall, I was the skinny greasy-haired kids with the acne so it's little surprise.

And yeah I guess it did make me feel bad during that time. School was something I detested for that very reason - especially in Phys Ed class.

But hey, it's something we go through you just have to realise that it wont go on for ever! I wouldn't say that it's had a lasting effect on me so I suppose I didn't get it that badly. It was hard for me to be confident for awhile but I wouldn't say I have confidence issues anymore!

If you're having trouble in gym class, I suggest a different form of physical education. Be forewarned, though: It could run you up to $100 an hour based on the property value of the street corner and/or what she's willing to do to you. If it's worth the money not to be called a name or two, I say go for it.

Lets see.. When I was in elementary school I was pretty chubby and had buck-teeth. Not many people would pick on me, but when they did, I'd take it pretty badly. I actually tried becoming a bully myself, but the first time I got in trouble for it (1st grade) I knew I'd never try it again. I was too much of a nice guy even back then..

The next issue I had with bullying was maaany years later, in early high school. I was a freshman in a junior-level French class, and for some reason a whole bunch of white chicks would constantly poke me, toss things at me, and simply try to get on my nerves. One day I just completely lost it and flipped my desk over, screaming at the top of my lungs, "Who the FUCK do you think you are?! You stupid bitches, touch me one more time and I swear I'll send you home in goddamn bodybag!!"

It was a liberating moment and was probably the angriest I've ever been in my entire life. The older folks in the class all said, "I wouldn't be able to put up with that. If I was him, I would have done the very same thing."

By the end of my high school career, all of those girls were good friends of mine. They often joked about that moment, actually.


The only bullying I have to put up with today is done by my close friends. They taunt me by calling me the "whitest black guy" they've ever known. Keep in mind, these are both my black and white friends..

I've been accused of this as well. Why do they do that to us?

I think when bullies back off is when they see they can't intimidate you anymore. Or at least that's what my family has always told me.

Heh, that sounds like me from ages 8-16. I was a late bloomer. People didn't just pick on me because of the way I look, but also my social status (we were poor in the first few years of my life). I suppose I vented my anger by beating up boys in elementary school. After getting contact lenses and losing baby fat at 16, people started talking to me and I became cynical. I'm a lot nicer to people nowadays, but I still don't trust many people very much.

Because we prefer to not have our vocabulary primarly composed of slang and cuss words and try to act "down with the homies". That shit is so phony. And yes I meant to rhyme that.

Yea I've been bullied - throughout middle school and the 9th grade. I was one unhappy student. One day I couldnt take it anymore and I fought one of my "regular bullies". He did kick the shit out of me but I kept coming back for more. Hell I just wanted him to leave me alone. Since then we were like "semi-friends". There was something about me that kids didn't like, don't know what it was. I was generally quiet. Maybe kids thought I was a stuck up antisocial moron. All they had to do was try to get to know me.

Man when school ended for me, it felt like a big cloud was lifted off my shoulders.

I was bullied a lot as a kid. As I entered the midteens, bullied sometimes became jumped. I was the nonconfrontational type always too afraid to fight back in fear that I may worsen my own circumstances. That changed, though. It must have been at 17 that I started dishing back out. I don't boast about this, but I've broken a couple of arms, noses, and prides. I just got tired of being the scrawny silent type. I only abused people who posed a serious physical threat to myself or a friend, though. The circle of life.

I, too, was a 'fake ass nigga' or 'white boy'.

I'm not quite sure either. I've actually learned to take those sort of comments in stride, but I still don't fully grasp it. How can I be the "whitest black guy" you know just because I'm book smart, rarely use slang, and can speak reletively well? None of my white friends have any of those characteristics, yet they like to place me among their category.. Makes no sense.

Two buddies of mine are what you'd call rednecks, and are the closest things I have to bullies today. They often force me to respond with equally stereotypical insults in order for them to understand anything I say. For example -

"Yea yea, why don't go back to your cotton fields nigger?"
"HAHAHA, why don't you go back to your 3-inch dicks and inbreeding, cracka!"

I don't like bringing myself DOWN to their level, but it's the only thing that works when dealing with the bullying type.

I took the comments in stride. I didn't take the beatdowns in stride, ace.

Ah, that's the difference between us then. I only got comments!

I figured as much. A couple of my closest friends straight up call me a nigger. No 'a'. I took it for a while before I checked them to make sure they knew that they should start making it sound more like a joke. I called my ex a nigger lover from time to time, in reference to myself of course. It's all fun and games until somebody gets hurt by it, so I try to avoid it altogether. Lastly, I'm not of any immiediate African descent. I'm Caribbean.

One of my friends had the nerve to tell me one day that I don't sound or act black. I was like, "How the hell are you supposed to know and you're not even black?!". I came to find out that he was basing that stuff on crap he saw on TV. One some of my black friends actually get mad at me for the way I speak (decent minus slang and garbage). They actually try to annoy me by using a whole bunch of that garbage around me. Geez, it's not that hard to learn proper English! What is wrong with them?


I beat this girl up as a kid that tried to bully me. She called me a whole bunch of names and crap and even stole something of mine. Then she made the mistake of coming on my front lawn bragging about it... I punched her like three or four times in the head and the stomach, which knocked her down. She gave me my stuff back and never bothered me again.

Did you declare, 'Homey don't play dat!' ?

That made me realize that I totally forgot about a situation I had similar to that. I was in 6th grade sitting at the lunch table with a friend of mine and he asked me to get something for him. After I replied with a "Sure" I heard him say under his breath "Stupid nigger." I shoved his ass to the ground hard and before I started punching him I asked where he learned that word. He had a look of terror in his eyes and responded, "M-my brother!"

At that point I knew he didn't even understand what he was saying, so I spared him an ass whupping before a teacher came over to see what the trouble was.

Sidenote: I'm Caribbean as well, and as far as I know, we're as easy going as they come. :p

Yea, this is the kind of ridicule I get on a daily basis. 'Black' nowadays isn't a race anymore, it's a style. Everyone can look/act 'black,' but whether or not you really ARE black suddenly has little to no impact people's judgements.

This boggles my mind.. :juggler:

Just in grade school, really. Nothing too serious with bullying happened in highschool, as it was surprisingly more laid back than I had anticipated.

I've been bullied in highschool... I was skinny, hated sport and everything "popular kid" related. I prefered daydreaming and drawing little stars and moons in the sand and somehow other kids didn't like that. I don't really care about it tho, I've kinda learnt from it. Later when I went to college I became so popular and believe me that wasn't fun at all either.

When I was younger, I was a fat little tike and was teased mercilously on account of it. Probably one of the driving forces in why I stay in shape today, although like many I have problems building any kind of noticeable muscle mass. :S Anyway, I can say I was lucky enough never to be psychically bullied in my day, which really wasn't common at all at my grade school in fact.

Kids tried to bully me at school... but I was already on forums where we exchanged harsh verbal and written arguments... so those kids had no game over my forum fights. I prolly got more emotional over my forum arguments lol. (what u think i was a loser?! HEY REMEMBER I WAS YOUNG THEN..still growing up). obviously im wiser now... but yea.

Haha, no, but I did yell really loud that if I ever saw her on my lawn again I would do the same thing. My brother (he was standing there watching the whole thing) thought it was hilarious. My parents somehow heard the entire thing through the walls and they laughed at me too. :( Well, at least I didn't get in trouble for getting beat up! :biggrin:

I agree with you 100%. It's sad, though. I just shake my head when I see little things that seemingly mock black people. It's like all of a sudden the people who act black are cooler than the people that are black. I will never fully understand this concept...

When I was in 9th grade, some idiot fool in my neighborhood decided he wanted to bully my cousin (they were together briefly). I was sitting there on the bus while they were in the back arguing. All of a sudden I hear him threaten her and say, "I will beat the shhh out of you if you don't shut up!". Immediately my headphones came off (I was listening to some sort of music) and I turned around real slow. I think the little piece of garbage forgot I was on the bus. I went to stand up to go back there and he saw me and backed off of her. He never bothered her again.

I'm not violent! Trust me! I just don't like it when people threaten me or threaten people related to and friends of mine!

I was bullied when I was in elementary school. 2nd grade. This one girl. She would poke me with pencils and call me names and one day walking home from school I ran up to her, pushed her on the ground and kicked her(multiple times) and ran to my house.

I am really pathetic. Her mom was huge though. Tall and fat, she came out of the house running so fast. Then my mom would argue with her on the phone(don't know how she got my number) and I'd here my mom yell and stuff. and then...

we became friends? we became friends...

Then before that this boy called me something and I went off. Shoved him to the wall and stuff.

In high school no one makes fun of me because, the silent kids are just waiting to erupt. but I'm not really silent. Not anymore. People leave me alone. I leave them alone.

Same here.

It's something that's pretty much thrown in my face by anybody that sees the way I act for the first time. For some reason when black people say shit about it, I get especially pissed off.

I was never bullied back in secondary school before. Our class was kinda tight knitted anyway and I was always on good terms with everyone in my school. My first time ever witnessing bullying was when during my first year in NZ doing the last year of high school. A new friend of mine (also Asian and also arrived the same year as I did) was kicked by some kid up the butt right in front of me like it was a joke or something (we did report it but they never got caught). I was sprayed with water+ spit a few times and told to go home. Name calling a plenty and always just outside school grounds, outside school hours. But ever since starting uni I haven't met anything of that sort.

I get the same shit. In school they call me "the whitest black guy" it pisses me the fuck off. I would plow their heads into a locker or something but I'm trying to graduate here and fighting in my school gets you a ten day suspension so it's not worth it. I also get the occasional white kid calling me a "nigger" and shit but I just call them a "cracker" or "honkey" or "KKK mother fucker".

Is is my imagination or is being "the whitest black guy/girl" supposed to be an insult of some type? I suppose that would explain the angry looks I get when I say "whatever" and walk away.

many girls including me here bullied by some missus that never wore the same thing twice. We where in junior high at the time when she move to the next town. She bullied a girl there and it got so bad that she appeared on the Sally show. I am sure I have the tape somewhere, If I can find it, I will rip it and upload it somewhere.

Now that I actually read this thread I've realised that us black folk go through a lot of the same shit. It's kinda sad but at least now I know I'm not alone.

Yep, you'd be surprised.

Didn't you know? It's a crime to be born different. ^_^ No we can't have that. Everyone must be exactly the same or the world will not turn on it's axis properly.

Ohh snap I just realised I never gave my full story. Well here it is. I used to be a pussy I used to take a lot of shit in school 1- about 7th grade. I moved to the U.S in 7th grade and that's when it really got serious. I was getting beat up on pretty much a daily basis and I was sick and tired of that shit. I used to try to avoid people as much as possible but they always found me. At the time I was really into in Dragon Ball Z and I used to watch that show all the time and it inspired me to ask my mom if I could take martial arts classes. I found a Judo/Jiu Jitsu school in my area and I started going to it. I started getting stronger and got a better build and gained some confidence after I'd been doing it for a while. I never actually got to go all out and use my skills on anyone (I'd been in a few fights but they didn't last long enough for me to really start whupp'in some serious ass.) So I've pretty much been doing Judo/Jiu Jitsu ever since and I've also done a few other martial arts as well. Now I'm going for my black belt test in the summer and in the Fall I'm off to Bootcamp to become a Marine. Now that I look back on it I realise that it's made me stronger.

I guess with a forum like this we've all experienced being bullied before. My brother and I, in particular my brother, was picked on a heck of a lot in elementary and middle school. He is a bit chubby, and that really fueled these ass-holes' fire. I remember sitting in the bus with my brother and having his hair pulled. I actually stood up, and yanked that guy's hair. Then, I did the forbidden, forced my brother to tell our mom, and she went to authorities (and called the boys' mothers).

That wasn't really the end of it, but getting adults involved did lessen some bullyings. And having me around as well.

From then on we never did ride the school bus ever again, instead we waited around for someone to pick us up every day. Sometimes we would sit outside and wait, and some low class kids would throw rocks at us. What the fuck, seriously.

But thinking back on it does bring a tinge of pain and hurt. Why kids would ever do that to innocent bystanders, I do not know. Once they took my brother's binder away and we searched the whole school for it an hour after it ended. He had everything in that one binder. It was sad.

But one thing for certain, it allowed me now that I'm old enough to understand to realize that kids who bully should definitely face consequences. It's not right, and could leave scars if left ongoing for years. You just have to stand up and fight back. I mean, that's the only way to survive in this dog eat dog world, I learned. These kids will never learn unless you give them a taste of their own medicine.

Well i'm still in High School, And well Bullying is everywere, NOW the way I see it you push me i'll push you back, And opposite ends for everyone else I know basically. It's just the way it works, Whether vocally or physically, Now in all honesty I've bullied before and been bullied back and forth. Yes, most kid's i've bullied ended up flipping shit on me and well we've became friends and i've realized I'ma pussy. But then you get the kids who do it to, So really I think you just gotta learn don't take shit from anyone, which I don't, And i'm small and not very strong but if you let someone push you around then you'll always get pushed around. So really I kind of agree with Gumby. BUT theres also a fine line between joking and the interpretation of "bullying", Me and my friends normally make fun of each other but then theres always that one friend who takes it seriously and considers it bullying when there throwing the jokes back as well...

Anyways yes i've been bullied but it's almost impossible to avoid bullying in anyform. And well really you learn to flip something someone says so it just became simple laughs to me by grade 7 - 8, Mainly 6 and 4 were grades I felt 'bullied' in. But really you've gotta learn that if you don't stand up for your self then it's going to elevate. But as of now ever since grade 7 i've been quite popular so I can't say i've been bullied for a while. And people think this but popularity doesn't mean you bullied everyone to become popular, But it does certianly give you the power to, As in most grade 11's at my school have bigger friends so they think they can pick on others, Such as little guys as my self but mouthy me just basically made fun of them seeing as they were trying to show off to some girls trying to act cool. But you see thats probably the only case of bullying i've experianced as of late. (I'm in grade 10 they were in grade 11, This happened earlier in my school year) They were way bigger then me but really I don't care, To many kids think they've got some 'status' but really there just using scare tactics to get known as the tough guy. Well I just say fuck it, They bully you, You bully them back.